MartynH

Hi everyone, What are some of the reasons a lot of you (particularly guys) have given up on dating? I am 6ft tall, I work out religiously so i'm in fairly good shape and I am reasonably successful with a phD in molecular microbiology and I travel a lot, both for fun and for work. I am currently a post doctoral research fellow at a very highly regarded University. But women just do not seem interested at all. They usually just flake out and I never hear from them again. However, I have been told by several people that I am not very sharp when it comes to interpersonal dynamics and do not pick up on blatant flirting from women. Do guys give up after all this?

Thats the thing there was no in between. We were having a conversation about cars (we both like cars) and then she's telling me "I'm not doing this", " we aren't on the same wavelength", " It freaks me out". I mean, fair enough but it was so random.

I am really bad at reading between the lines. From my point of view one minute we were friends and then she is just freaking out.

I would agree but for a year she was messaging me, I wasn't messaging her. It was a lot more than idle chit chat. I was happy to be friends and respectful of her marriage.

Hi everyone, I have known this friend who is female since school. She used to have a crush on me. She reconnected with me and started messaging me nearly everyday for nearly a year and occasionally called me. She did this using Facebook messenger. She is married with 2 children which I respected. One day we were having a casual chat about cars and then out of nowhere she said “ i’m not doing this anymore”. I asked what and she said “ Talking on messenger, we are not on the same wavelength”. This was totally random. She wouldn’t explain what she was talking about. Especially the part about being on the same wavelength because we have been speaking everyday for a year and always got on really well. She said " I'm gone after this, it freaks me out too much". Anyway she unfriended and blocked me which really confused me! Two days later she re-added me and started messaging me again. I told her that I didn’t appreciate her cryptic behaviour and randomly falling out with me without explanation and she apologized. One night she wanted to ring me and 12:30pm at night and I was just ready for bed. She called and we spoke to a while and she hung up on me half way through a very casual conversation about holidays etc. She deleted Facebook and messenger but she has my phone number. I am baffled what to make of all this. She did say in the past she doesn’t want to talk by text or whatsapp which I don’t understand because she was fine messaging and calling nearly everyday on messenger. What do you make of this?