I recently found a secret file on a bunch of my partners usb sticks that has naked pictures of girls and a file with my pictures that I have sent to him throughout the years. I found a file of him sleeping with another girl and he video taped it and took pictures of her. I found other files on his computer with their first names and initials but I cant click on them to access it as it says its no longer available. when I looked at the dates they got together before we got engaged (a month) and then AFTER we got engaged. I seen he was taking photos of other girls and even did it on thanksgiving (our child was only 3months old) while i was at home making dinner and he pretty much ate and left right after which was super fishy- said he was moving a friend (found out he rented a hotel room to take these photos) I have not said anything at all and found this out recently. I saved all the photos and videos that I could but also found out that he has another facebook account that hes been hitting on other girls or saying things in his status like "who wants a photoshoot, who wants to smoke a joint, who wants to hang out, etc" ( we have been together for 10 years and have had small children together in recent years)
(real account) I seen that hes been commenting on other girls status's (I dont know these girls) and liking all of their photos, etc. If i were to do this he would be piiiiiiissed that I commented or liked someone else's photos that's the opposit sex. He always says he never wants to hang with anyone and that he likes just spending time with the family, but obviously not.
Im at a loss for words at this point, hes always saying how hot I am and that I dont consider myself as hot as I am (I take great care of my body, im suuper kinky with him in the bedroom, we have sex atleast 3 times a day and always well maintained) I work full time and hes been giving me a hard time saying im a peice of *** mom for not staying home with my kids and that im always chasing my dreams ( I put myself through college then got a job after my kids were a little bigger) He doesnt always have a steady job and watches our kids while im at work. He gets mad saying that hes not my babysitter and is often in a bad mood.
At this point im not sure how to approach this or should I just pack up and leave because hes clearly been disrespecting me this entire relationship...even gave me an sti a few years ago and I was so stupid I thought it was because I was showring with the lake water and maybe thats why.....he was leaving the house alot at the time and sometimes for hours, he was gone for hours the night before I had one of my children and I should have known. I always had a feeling but now that I have confirmation I dont know how to go about this.
I have never been the one to leave in the relationship and never broke up a serious relationship with kids. I need help./advice on this. I just think i need good advice on how to leave, how do I initiate this to him
