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I never said I wanted to stop having sex with him I actually don't want to stop. That's why I asked him if he was saying he didn't want to see me anymore. I'm going to go on one more date with the new guy. And then I'll make my decision. But then I have to tell the FWB guy that I don't want to have sex anymore. He said we could still be friends without the sex. But I really don't know how that would work. I mean really? Especially after the comment he made about how he knew he could get me back in bed again.
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I know at some point I'll have to decide if I decide to keep dating the new guy. The new guy doesn't like the same things I like sexually. The things that me and the FWB do to each other. I know because I asked him about certain things. The new guy seems to be romantic and that's what I like about him. But then that other part of me wants the FWB because I like the sex and I'm comfortable with him. I was in a relationship for seven years with a guy and I wasn't satisfied sexually. I know he doesn't want to be in a relationship. He can't even communicate properly he said he can talk to people about work but nothing else. Yet he has talked about personal things with me. At one point he said he was going to therapy but recently he said he doesn't have time for it. I don't know why he just didn't say he doesn't want to have sex anymore if that's really what he meant.
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So what was he supposed to say when I asked him if he said he didn't want to see me anymore? I'm not being manipulative. I've read that communication with FWB is important like telling each other if you're talking to or are involved with someone else. That's why I told him at least I knew he'd try to sabotage my relationship thinking that he could get me to start back up again. The second guy is intellectual I enjoyed having conversations when we were on our first date. It was just odd that he kept trying to hide that he was turned on. I assume he was probably feeling embarrassed and didn't want me to see it? Because it is visible. On the second date he kept moving around I don't know what was going on with him.
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He said he doesn't have many friends. That he only talks to his mom, her bf, and his other two guy friends. He never said he didn't want me in his life. I asked him flat out if he was saying he didn't want to see me anymore. And he said that wasn't what he was saying. He seems to be ok not having anyone in his life it's not specifically me. I'm not in love with him yes I do like him I care about him. The only thing I'd want more of is seeing him like once a month that's it. I also like the other guy that I'm dating he's the one that I could probably fall in love with. You don't understand that people can like several people at once.
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I'll be honest I do care about him and right now I am not saying in a romantic way I mean just in general. It just seems like he's been through a lot. He has issues with communication he said he doesn't really talk to anyone. And the things he's told me about like how he didn't have food growing up, how he was both physically and verbally abused as a child. I can't really explain it I just feel sad about it. And I think it's the reason why he's like he is today. Being abused by friends etc. I just want us to have a healthy friendship. I don't think anyone here will really understand if they haven't had a rough childhood.
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Yes, what you're saying is what I mean when I say he's like family. I was not trying to make him jealous when I told him that. He even told me to tell him if I have sex with someone else to let him know. So we can just be friends without the sex. But then he commented how he knows he can get me back to having sex with him again. I also don't get why he told his mother about me either. So I guess they have been made mouthing me. The new guy doesn't know about him I told him things ended with us in August. I do like the new guy he's nice but he makes me feel a little uneasy.
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I recently told my FWB I had been on a date with a guy and was thinking about going out with him again. He told me it was okay if I did if it made me happy. I asked him if he was saying he didn't want to see me again. And he said that wasn't what he was saying. He said if I started having sex with or got into a relationship with another guy. That he and I would stop the sex and be friends, yet he laughed and commented saying he knew he could get me to sleep with him again if I did move on. I don't get why he would say that.
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Is my friend saying he doesn't want to see me again?
CherrieTart replied to CherrieTart's topic in Friendship and Friends
Do you not understand the part where I mentioned that he told me he wasn’t saying that he doesn’t want to see me again? Or is that just being completely ignored… -
Is my friend saying he doesn't want to see me again?
CherrieTart replied to CherrieTart's topic in Friendship and Friends
I’m not sure why people here are trying to convince me that he’s saying something different than what he told me in person. I asked him flat out if he was saying that he didn’t want to see me again and he said that’s not what he’s saying. -
Is my friend saying he doesn't want to see me again?
CherrieTart replied to CherrieTart's topic in Friendship and Friends
Maybe the guy is just really attracted to me. I really don't know what to think. I said he was touching himself as a way to hide that he was aroused. -
Is my friend saying he doesn't want to see me again?
CherrieTart replied to CherrieTart's topic in Friendship and Friends
You’re making it seem like he just randomly said it’s ok if I date other men. He only said it because I mentioned that I had gone out on a date. He wasn’t telling me to go be with someone else because he didn’t want to see me again. He and I are friends whether we have sex or not. He even told his mother that he and I are friends. -
Is my friend saying he doesn't want to see me again?
CherrieTart replied to CherrieTart's topic in Friendship and Friends
He told me it was ok for me to date other people because we aren’t in a relationship. He said if it makes me happy then I should. I’m not really sure why people are saying it means that he doesn’t want to see me anymore. When he told me that’s not what he meant. If he said that’s not what he meant then that’s it. The second guy is disappointed because I left and because I didn’t like the restaurant. He said he’s never felt so disconnected with anyone on a date. I don’t get it I mean the way he was acting made me feel uncomfortable. -
Is my friend saying he doesn't want to see me again?
CherrieTart replied to CherrieTart's topic in Friendship and Friends
Yeah I did feel uncomfortable today he told me that he was disappointed that I left the restaurant. And that I didn’t like the place. He said he’s never experienced someone being so disconnected with him on a date. I don’t know what he expects when he was being a creep. I was actually going to give him another chance but I think I’m done this is crazy. -
Is my friend saying he doesn't want to see me again?
CherrieTart replied to CherrieTart's topic in Friendship and Friends
He might not want to be friends with a woman he’s had sex with. Again he never said he didn’t want to be friends with me…. -
Is my friend saying he doesn't want to see me again?
CherrieTart replied to CherrieTart's topic in Friendship and Friends
I don't understand why me wanting to know if he wants to continue seeing me is an issue. Like why is that a problem? Communication is important it has nothing to do with catching feelings. I wanted to know if he wanted to continue having sex or not. He is the one who said that he and I could still be friends even if we don't have sex. He told me to let him know if I start having sex with someone else so that we can stop. -
Is my friend saying he doesn't want to see me again?
CherrieTart replied to CherrieTart's topic in Friendship and Friends
I'm not sure what you're saying he didn't say he met someone. I told him I went out on a date with someone. And he told me it was okay if I wanted to date since he and I are just friends. And if I actually met someone I liked and wanted to have sex with. To let him know and he and I would stop having sex and just be friends. -
Is my friend saying he doesn't want to see me again?
CherrieTart replied to CherrieTart's topic in Friendship and Friends
No, I'm not telling him that hoping he'll want to date me. I just told him because I'm being honest what's wrong with that? He told me if I met someone and had sex to tell him and we could just be friends without the sex. He never said he didn't want to see me again. The second guy said he wants a relationship and he's been saying that for over a year now.