CherrieTart

He doesn't care yet he asked me if the guy texts me.

I never said I wanted to stop having sex with him I actually don't want to stop. That's why I asked him if he was saying he didn't want to see me anymore. I'm going to go on one more date with the new guy. And then I'll make my decision. But then I have to tell the FWB guy that I don't want to have sex anymore. He said we could still be friends without the sex. But I really don't know how that would work. I mean really? Especially after the comment he made about how he knew he could get me back in bed again.

I know at some point I'll have to decide if I decide to keep dating the new guy. The new guy doesn't like the same things I like sexually. The things that me and the FWB do to each other. I know because I asked him about certain things. The new guy seems to be romantic and that's what I like about him. But then that other part of me wants the FWB because I like the sex and I'm comfortable with him. I was in a relationship for seven years with a guy and I wasn't satisfied sexually. I know he doesn't want to be in a relationship. He can't even communicate properly he said he can talk to people about work but nothing else. Yet he has talked about personal things with me. At one point he said he was going to therapy but recently he said he doesn't have time for it. I don't know why he just didn't say he doesn't want to have sex anymore if that's really what he meant.

So what was he supposed to say when I asked him if he said he didn't want to see me anymore? I'm not being manipulative. I've read that communication with FWB is important like telling each other if you're talking to or are involved with someone else. That's why I told him at least I knew he'd try to sabotage my relationship thinking that he could get me to start back up again. The second guy is intellectual I enjoyed having conversations when we were on our first date. It was just odd that he kept trying to hide that he was turned on. I assume he was probably feeling embarrassed and didn't want me to see it? Because it is visible. On the second date he kept moving around I don't know what was going on with him.

He said he doesn't have many friends. That he only talks to his mom, her bf, and his other two guy friends. He never said he didn't want me in his life. I asked him flat out if he was saying he didn't want to see me anymore. And he said that wasn't what he was saying. He seems to be ok not having anyone in his life it's not specifically me. I'm not in love with him yes I do like him I care about him. The only thing I'd want more of is seeing him like once a month that's it. I also like the other guy that I'm dating he's the one that I could probably fall in love with. You don't understand that people can like several people at once.

I'll be honest I do care about him and right now I am not saying in a romantic way I mean just in general. It just seems like he's been through a lot. He has issues with communication he said he doesn't really talk to anyone. And the things he's told me about like how he didn't have food growing up, how he was both physically and verbally abused as a child. I can't really explain it I just feel sad about it. And I think it's the reason why he's like he is today. Being abused by friends etc. I just want us to have a healthy friendship. I don't think anyone here will really understand if they haven't had a rough childhood.

Yeah, well it doesn't seem like he wants to be in a relationship period. If he's talking about how he knows he could get me back in bed knowing that I'm talking to another guy.

Yes, I went on a second date and I felt uneasy and walked out. He was acting strange like he couldn't sit still. And then I noticed that he was looking down at my breasts.

I don't want a relationship with him hence the reason why I've been dating the other guy. It's just that he and I aren't sexually compatible.

Yes, what you're saying is what I mean when I say he's like family. I was not trying to make him jealous when I told him that. He even told me to tell him if I have sex with someone else to let him know. So we can just be friends without the sex. But then he commented how he knows he can get me back to having sex with him again. I also don't get why he told his mother about me either. So I guess they have been made mouthing me. The new guy doesn't know about him I told him things ended with us in August. I do like the new guy he's nice but he makes me feel a little uneasy.

I like the sex and comfort that I feel with him he feels like family to me. But I like the other guy for dating and romance.

Honestly, I didn't tell him to see how he would react. I would go see the guy once or twice a year. He was going through a rough time and I'd help him out.

I told him because I don't like to play games and I wanted to be upfront and honest. Also, I wasn't sure if he wanted to keep being FWB or not.

I'm not playing any games I was just being honest. Isn't that important when it comes to FWB? This isn't the first time I've been FWB I had one who was a thousand miles away.

I recently told my FWB I had been on a date with a guy and was thinking about going out with him again. He told me it was okay if I did if it made me happy. I asked him if he was saying he didn't want to see me again. And he said that wasn't what he was saying. He said if I started having sex with or got into a relationship with another guy. That he and I would stop the sex and be friends, yet he laughed and commented saying he knew he could get me to sleep with him again if I did move on. I don't get why he would say that.