Chad75

She loves to be loud and aggressive, push buttons and activate triggers. In my last relationship I was physically and verbally abused for many years and she knows that. The last incident we had she told me I was doing something that I wasn't doing, I tried being calm and reasoning with her and told her I wasn't doing what she was accusing me of and she got irate, started screaming F you at me and shoving her middle finger in my face over and over and calling me a liar. I thought she was going to hit me because of my past so it was a reflex to grab her arm to get her hand out of my face. Now all of her friends think im physically abusive and an angry person. Which I've never been. Anyone that knows me knows that.

Yeah, I'm starting to feel like I have no choice, shes never going to listen to reason and get help. Shes become a professional gaslighter and deflector. She'll never be the girl I fell in love with again.

January will be 10 years we've been together. Our son will be 8 on Christmas day and I mainly take care of him. She goes to school 2 days a week and does clinicals at the hospital the other 3 days. On the weekends she spends all her time with her plants and stuffing her face in her phone talking to her friend and scrolling Facebook. She gives us hardly any attention at all while she's here.

In a relationship (48M) with a (42f) that was diagnosed bipolar but now says it was a misdiagnosis and won't take her meds for 10 years now, we have an autistic son together and live together. When we met we did everything together and she was awesome!! She was exciting, playful, lovable, full of labido, very generous, fun to be around and hang out with and made many promises to me the first 5 years we were together. 4 years ago she started to treat me differently after starting to play online games and going back to school and it got worse every hear that went by, 8 months ago all love, intimacy, bonding and connecting stopped. When I bring it up to find out why because I'm stressed out, miserable,, frustrated, lonely and miss her terribly, she gets upset and says its because she doesn't feel close to me, because I won't communicate with her or open up and share my feelings to connect with her. I was doing all that before she cut me off, I pay all the expensive bills, I support her addictions and needs, I drive her to school every day there and back a half hour each way 4 times a day. I make her dinner every night, i let her vent and complain to me every single day about the things that bother her, I listen to her when she talks to me and let her know im interested in what she's saying, and never complain about any of it. After 8 months of no love, affection or bonding, I don't feel comfortable around her and find it very difficult to communicate with her because I strongly feel like she doesn't care anymore, she never shows empathy or sympathy when I tell her how I feel, I get berated and treated with contempt when I try to talk to her, I can't reason with her at all and every time I bring up her diagnosis she tells me I'm crossing the line and mentally abusing her. I need advice, bad, what should I do?