Artist45

To be clear - I told her to lose my number AFTER she ghosted me the second time…

Thank you very much for that.. No, I was not asking if I should contact her….

Thank you

Suggesting I get professional help is not talking down… I was referring to your overall tone in your comments from this thread and from the previous one….

Like I said, I was not obsessed at the time of the breakup.. I was relieved… it wasn’t until over a year later that I became obsessed…

Like I said in another post, I am already getting professional help. Yes, I know this is not natural and not healthy...... that is why I am sharing about it. I feel like you are talking down to me.......

Long story short: I was bothered by things I saw when we dated.. she was emotionally closed off, had frequent crying spells and never would say why, a former cutter (over 50 scars on her body) and alcoholic…. I was relieved when we broke up (she ghosted me) because I was about to end things…. But she beat me to it…. I moved on a while ago. But I stupidly looked at her IG page and saw that she is with someone now… Now I wish I had tried to save the relationship…. And I feel like a total loser…..

I dated a girl for 2.5 months. We ended over a year ago. I was fine with that, but now I miss her like crazy….. Anyone else experience this?

Wow!!! What a story!!! I really appreciate the time you took to share all that.. can’t explain why I am hung up on her… I was about to break up with her before she ghosted me and after she did that, I was actually relieved….. as soon as I saw an IG pic of her cuddling with some dude, my heart sank….. like why wasn’t I good enough to be with her?… why wasn’t I good enough for her to keep around.. I know that’s irrational and I’m aware of my issues…. It just hurts…

Last thing I will add... I realize it was wrong to suggest sex to a girl who needs help getting sober.. I own it. So I called her about 4 weeks ago to apologize for that. I said I know it was selfish and inappropriate and that I wish I had not said that... She was cool and did not seem bothered by it. I asked her how she was doing and she told me about a new job she just got. I congratulated her. She said, "the story how I got this job is crazy, but that's a story for another time". I asked, "do you want to catch up later?". She replied, "no, I don't think so".... and that was it.. (flip flop answer) I realize now I should have just made the amends and left it alone...

I am just very confused and hurt

She flip flopped between wanting something sexual, then not......

No, that was my reaction to her ghosting me.. but I get your point

For her to explain why she ghosted me the second time..

27 or 28 now

What exactly did I throw in her face?

Yes, I have an appointment. I have no idea if she has a new boyfriend or not..

I want so bad to talk to her to get closure… is that a bad idea?

Just started seeing a therapist

I wish I could stop thinking about her. I know it doesn’t make sense, but a huge part of me wants her back….. I know it’s not healthy, but can’t stop obsessing… it is affecting the way I sleep, eat, etc…

Thank you.. I feel bad for certain things

Thank you very much for this

Not sure how I disrespected or patronized her.... But yes, I blocked her During a crying spell< I was throwing out possibilities to try to find out what was bothering her. I understand now that upset her, but she kept it in and ghosted me for it. I do not feel that is an equal and opposite reaction...

Ha ha ha.. no. I feel hurt that she left me hanging without an explanation and that I was replaced by someone who is better than me… someone more attractive. she had two pics on IG with her and some dude…. She just deleted one and I just now saw this other one for the first time. They were both taken around the same time…..

Also, I did not mention this - I made the dumb mistake of looking at her IG and it looks like she is dating someone…. I feel so discarded by this. Man, the pain is intense