I'm 28, he's 29. We've been together almost 2 years , married 4 months, have spent 2 birthdays together. This is the first birthday we spend as husband and wife.
Since the very first time my husband has gifted me flowers (my birthday last year) they have been the tiniest of bouquets... when I say tiny I mean 5-6 flowers in total. It doesn't make sense, a 12 count of flowers cost $10 where we live. The ones he is getting are $5. It's not about the cost either. But what's $5 more to invest in your Wife on her birthday?!? For reference we each make 35k, he makes a little bit more. $10 will not break our wallet in the slightest.
I told him once that the full size count last more, and that the fewer ones don't look as good in the vase as they fall to the sides, due to lack of stems so they just don't look as pretty.
He got offended for some reason, and said "who says that?" Yet on our anniversary he got me a full 12 count of beautiful orange roses. So I thought the silly 5 stems would stop, except on my BIRTHDAY this year (2 weeks ago) he did it again. It's like he's ***ing with me or something because what is the reason? I told him I preferred the full count.
I would undrstand if flowers were $50 but they are TEN DOLLARS! (Please do not comment saying flowers don't cost $10 bc where I live they do. The most I've seen them for is $12) Considering I've already tried to tell him this before, is it too much to ask him for a normal bouquet?
My issue is the fact that I communicate to him what I want/need. And he responds but in the way that he sees convenient, almost like he just isn't thinking of what I want, and isn't that what a gift is all about? Plus, what makes this even crazier is that I'm his WIFE. Shouldn't husbands want to give their wives the big bouquets anyway?? It hurts me, I feel like he's being thoughtless. Also it feels like he's being cheap with me and that's not a good first start to celebrating birthdays as a married couple. Would it wrong to say that?
I dream of one day receiving one of those ridiculously big bouquets, not because of the size but because my partner knows I that love flowers so much and he wants to invest in me. Is there a way to address this without sounding extremely ungrateful? I am grateful for the flowers but why can't they be what I want?
For reference, I get him birthday gifts every year. Every year I get a card and flowers.
