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Thanks for the replies everyone. @Andrina I have already been trying to minimize contact with him, I simply say hello and then go about my own business. But the more I try to ignore him, the more he tries to talk to me and be around me. Sometimes I have to attend parties that he will be at because we have mutual friends and if it is a party to celebrate something specifically for them (birthday, leaving party etc.), I don't want to let them down and not attend. He always comes and sits with me or tries to speak to me, and I get usually up and leave but he seems to follow me around the room. It's just very strange

Well, unfortunately I do still have feelings for the previous guy. I wish I didn't but I can't help it. I am trying so hard to mask it. Most of my friends say I have a real poker face at the moment and they wouldn't be able to tell that I still like him if they did not know. I initially went out with the new guy as a distraction if I am honest but I do like him. I don't know yet whether I am fully into him as it is at a very early stage.

Hi everyone, thank you so much for the advice. So I decided to give him a second chance when he arranged a second date...and surprise surprise, he did not show up the second time either. He stopped texting me for a while, then started again out of the blue a week later. I decided that he was not worth my time, so ignored his messages and only replied brief one or two-word responses to important messages about work (we work together). I also tried to avoid him as much as possible at work. Fast forward to now, I just met a new guy and have started going on a few dates with him. He is clearly very interested in me. Now, the ex-crush is messaging me a lot (which I am not replying to), being super nice to me, finding reasons to be near me at work, trying really hard to get in with my friend group and trying even harder to befriend my new guy. What's up with that. So confusing

Hi everyone. So a while ago, I met a guy and felt an instant connection with him. We actuall work for different companies in the same industry so we work together at least a few days per week. After hanging out at work a few times, he asked me on a date. However, on the date, he stood me up. The next day, he told me how sorry he was and that he was sick, so he would rearrange the date, which he did. I decided to give him a second chance. Stupid idea, as he stood me up for that date as well. I assumed at this point that he was not interested in going on a date with me. So I decided to stop engaging with him and start ignoring him because I really had feelings for him (maybe still do) and it was just easier for me to move on without speaking to him. Fast forward a few weeks, I have met a new guy who is really into me and we are getting on very well. Now he goes out of his way to speak to me at work, comes to stand near me for no reason or just seems to be trying to get physically close to me. Its almost like he is trying to remind me of his presence. Even more weird, he is also trying very hard to befriend my new man and it is so strange. We went to a party for a mutual friend the other day and I brought the new guy along. Whenever I was physically away from my new guy he would slide alongside my new man and have conversations with him. He did not do this with the partners of any other girls at the party. Maybe I am overthinking it but why would he do that? Anyone have any insight on this?

OK, so in reality, I know that nobody can truly answer this question but him. However, I would like to get some other perspectives on this. I have known this guy for a while who lives in my area (about a year) and recently at a party he told me that he has liked me for a while and would like to take me on a date. I really like him too so I was very happy. We exchanged numbers, and he asked me to go for dinner with him to local restaurant. But on the day, he said he was very tired from work and could we rearrange. This was a week ago and he has not rearranged a date. At the time, I said it was fine because I wanted to give him the benefit of the doubt. He messages me really sweet things about how he likes me, but then doesn't reply to my responses for at least 5 hours, sometimes even a day, then talks to me like everything is fine and there was no delay. It's difficult to have a conversation with someone who leaves 5 hours to a day between texts. I know he has been ill recently so this could have something to do with it. When he texts me, he is always asking how I am and how my day has been, sometimes saying that he misses me. I feel like he would reply much quicker if he genuinely did like me. How do I interpret this? Any ideas for how I should proceed? Thanks in advance 🙂 w