Sher_sher

My ex and I have been off and on for the past 10 years. We never dated anyone else, even when we were “off.” We made a commitment to each other that we will be together fully when we both get our lives in order. Well, I got mine in order and I’ve been waiting for him to do the same. A couple of months ago we were talking about moving out of state and starting our lives together finally. That’s when he dropped a bomb on me. He started seeing someone! He didn’t even have the respect to tell me! I found out through someone else. He is still with her and I’m left holding onto our broken dreams. We also have a 9 year old son together. I feel like my life is upside down. Everything I wanted for my future is gone. The worst part is that all of a sudden, he is just so cruel to me. I love him and I still want to be with him. How do I get him to realize the mistake he is making and get him back?

I think he is trying to tell you that he likes you and he’s not looking to be with anyone else right now. He’s dating you and intends to keep doing so. There’s no reason you can’t have a conversation with him about it though. You don’t have to get into a big thing. A simple question like, “hey, I liked your response to my text the other day, does this mean you don’t plan on seeing anyone else while you’re with me?” I’m sure he will confirm that is indeed what he was saying. There’s no reason to not ask. It’s natural to want to know what his feelings are about the relationship.