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In those years I've gone on a couple of dates with a few people and hooked up with some aswell. As there was no "committed relationship," But if I could see myself wanting to go further with any of the others through out the years I would of cut things off with him straight away and long ago. As I don't like cheating and getting into a relationship with someone when I've got even a little something going on with someone else. But I understand where you are coming from and appreciate your advise and opinion on the situation.

Thank you taking the time not only to read but respond to my post and reply, with kind and respectful words. They are greatly appreciated and will definitely help me with moving forward.

As I said in my post I've known him and his family for basically my whole life. So I know he wasn't and hadn't been dating anyone during the years we where messaging. He kept on saying he was busy with work which I know can be true as he owns and runs a bar/restaurant but there was not even an apology for cancelling plans or an effort to make new ones. I guess I would understand if the messages where just purely sexaul but there was more too them than that. I just don't know what to do now with his family asking questions?

A guy and my self have known each other and our families for years. Literally since I was in dipers (he's a few years older than me). But a few years ago (both over 20years old) we started speaking to each other more and more and not just the basic "how's the family" thing, real deep conversations. When this all started we where living in different countries on different sides of the world. This back and forth messaging wasn't a day to day thing as time zones can be hard but it was pretty frequent. As the conversation grew so did the understanding that we found each other attractive so the flirty and some times (quite sexual) messages started aswell. (Which we both enjoyed and took part in) So after a few years of doing this we are both now living in the same country again and not too far away from each other. So one day I'm around seeing some members of his family and I message him saying I'm around and we should hang out and he agrees at first but things keep coming up and he cancels plans. A couple months go by and we are still messaging (including sexual stuff). When I decided one day to messge him and say I still want and love those conversations we've been having for literal years but I don't want to do the flirty/sexual stuff anymore as I dont want to confuse anything if nothing going to come from it . And his response was to just send me the thumbs up emoji. It has been a 6 months now and we haven't spoken since. And honestly I don't know how to feel about it. His family keeps asking if things are okay between us because they knew we were messaging each other (but not to what extreme) and now can see we are not. What should I do? Tell his family what went down or just try and ignore it?