Hi there,
I have just come here for some advice, although im pretty sure i know what the answers will be! 🙂
I was in a serious relationship with my ex for 6 years. The last year of the relationship was long distance as she took a job in the USA (I am in Europe) as it was a great opportunity for her which i fully supported. Unfortunately this came at a time when the pandemic was on and neither of us could travel to see each other for a year... Although we spoke every day we drifted apart and when i went to see her in November last year she broke it off. We never went completely zero contact, and we have both dated people since then (i am currently not dating, but she tells me she is but its nothing serious, not like it was with me..). She was back from the US last week and we met up for dinner. She says she probably needs to stay in the US for another couple of years (we work in a very niche subject) but then is seriously considering coming back to Europe although it will depend where the opportunities are. She said she didnt know what to do about us, as i proposed we try long distance again in non-covid times as i really believe she is 'the one'. In many ways it seems she thinks the same, as she says that she knows we were the best relationship she will ever have... At the end of the meal, of which a lot of it was spent in tears from her end, she said she would think over things but she just doesnt know what to do... When i got home she sent me a message saying it was good to see me and i looked good
We have agreed to meet up later in the week as she will return to the US at the weekend, but in the meantime my stomach is in knots and really dont know what to do. I know i need to give her some space to think now, but we have started messaging each other daily again and she always ends the message with kisses. To make the situation even more complicated i have a daughter who mostly lives with her mum in Europe but that procludes me from moving to the US- otherwise i would...
I am pretty sure she feels the same about me and is scared by it all, and i dont want to scare her even more, but i really need her to know this is make or break, as if we dont try now i really need to eliminate her completely from my life (although we work in the same field so am sure we will run into each other again, but at least i wont see her face on my socials all the time...)
Thanks for reading all of this, and any advice would be very much appreciated.
Cheers
