Anna09

Yes you right And I'm looking for work and any work to get out of this It breaks my heart things went down this way but i had worst happen when i lost loved one and like continues

True . It's just a fantasy i merge in my hard based on all what he says and the way he acted the couple times i saw him in person. He made me believe that he was in love with me for who i am. He always dais her life me with make up or without it, fat or skinny , with straight hair or frizzy . And he likes my personality and i guess i wanted that so much and just believed it . I'm not the most beautiful or attractive girl and have insecurities and low self esteem but i have a good and kind heart and i thought i finally found someone that can see that and that shares same vision as me. Now all my insecurities just got worst . Everyone i see him on the phone i think he is texting other women. And when we are out i look at him everyone a girl past by to see if he is looking at her and i get irritated and in a bad mood all time and anxious. But he still acts all lovey dovey and keeps saying he loves me and talks about the future.... This is causing me a lot anxiety and depression and i can't stand Being here all what i can think of is that i don't want to be here

This my first time putting so much effort for someone. Those few times we met were great and we kept contact on the phone on daily basis. And things were great! I never had a relation where someone loved me. I had only 2 relations and didn't work great! Yes i did apply to multiple company and i will call them in 2 days.. I'm just lost he is acting like a very loving caring partner . And making Ilana for the future together....i really don't know what he wants exactly

When first i met him. He just start working. It was his first week at work and didn't have munch money or family in the states either. I helped him by buying food multiple times and lend him money for his rent

Yes i have to pretend. I just did right now and it's just the worst it feels awful. i have to act all affectionate and caring. I use to love been that way with him i did it from my heart. But now it feels just weird. As i feel like I'm doing that with a stranger not someone i suppose to share a future with. And i feel as if he knows i know he is just weird too.

What I'm trying to say is that he just asked me if i used they phone he gave me yesterday and i think he did figure it out and he probably knows that I'm acting distant and avoiding him because i found something in that phone. The way he asked tells me that

Yes I'm sorry. I'm using talk to text.

I gel like her knows i found something in that phone he lend because her just asked me if i used the phone. And now things could just get worst. Im not sure what to do if he asked if i acted like that because of something in the phone. Those Texts i found they were from months ago. When in was still living in my state and were where dating at distance but our relation was official by then. that phone he lend me was his older phone that her no longer uses abs he probably forgot about the texts. So I'm not sure what's in his current phone.

Yes. I been trying to pull my self together and focus to apply for jobs and get May's rent. He still talks about the future and just yesterday taking about us getting a new car together and i just stopped him right there and told him we can't share a car . .. It s hard to pretend like nothing happen and i just don't want him to touch me or he affectionate with me.

Yes i m using birth control . And i need to get tested for STDs i thought of that as soon as i found this texts. I used most of my savings four the move and to pay my half rent of April and get some of the stuff we need at the new place abs what i need. I thought i wilk be able to find a job fast enough to have my part of the rent for the next month. And he keeps telling me to don't worry about anything and that he will take care of things and help me like i helped him in the past. And that he will have my neck and protect me m these was his words few hours before i found those texts. I don't understand why he will put so much effort into it relation and tell all his friends and family and cheat at the same time

I already put my half of the tent for this month of april and my bills. And i thought i would be able to find some sort of work by may to pay my part of they month of may and i put half the rent for May on the side just not the rest of the bills and food. And he also said multiple times to don't worry too much that he can cover what i need until i start working. I heroes him when we first met he didn't have a job or a place to stay and helped him a lot and he said he still remember my help for him. But now that i found out he is cheating. It's just different. Before i thought is its as a team and I'd him as maybe a potential future partner but now i just don't know with all this my head is all over the place. I can't focus or look for work . I he'll like I'm just chocked and disappointed.

Us i did pay for food and rent and build and helped my family the entire time i was here in the states. I loved with a roommate and the state where i lived it was one of the cheapest in the US. Now I'm in a New city and i do want to tell him i can't help him pay bills until i get a Job . I'm asking how to tell him that . He still very nice at least for now and says to don't query about anything abs that he will support us until i get a job. .....

How should i tell him that's i can't contribute to the bills and groceries until i get a job and we agreed on paying half and half and he did offer the first few days to pay for things until i get a job. But i waved to be fair and told him let's just share the expenses . I thought he was serious and i duct want him to think I'm just talking advantage of him m i waved to give this a fair shot and now I'm just in the worst case scenario 1 week into this.

I was a student until recently . Majoring in microbiology . But writing just in a restaurant to support my self and my family. I funny have credit cards because my credit isn't great. As i have a lot of hospital bills from a past hospitalization when first i got to USA

None of those are options . i don't have any credit cards and i funny think i can get my old job beck

Yes I'm like a servant in his home. Basically making all meals and cleaning after him Yes he did talk multiple times about marriage abs he still do. And i toothy he was serious like he pretended to be and loving caring man. And i wanted to give this a real chance. As i know by phone from a distance you can't really know if it's something that going to work for sure. I thought its 50 50 chance. But i didn't think the very respectful, caring, loving guy he pretended to be still be seeking sec and meeting other women while i was away when he keeps insisting that trust is the most important thing in a relation

I'm in us citizen . I came for school and work after i got residency and now I'm a citizen after few years here.

Yes , i m just gonna look for a fat in like eating tables or anything to get me out of his house and than i can look to get something . I really can't even look at him the same way and it's so hard to be next to him the last 2 days after i found out. And i just don't want him to touch me or get near me . Knowing he didn't care to hurt me and go seek sec and fun with other people and even willing to pay at some extend.

No he doesn't cover all my living cost her just got a new apartment and paid the deposit. And got most big furniture. But we share the rent and the bills and groceries end put my half for all. What crazy stuff he may pull?

I only have a months and she is sick not working. She wouldn't say no if she could but I'm the one that helps paying for her hospital bills and she is in east Europe. I just feel like everything is a lie . Everyone he said he loved me and acted a future was a lie. And everyone in the only one for him and how much he likes me and think I'm pretty is just a lie. And I'm not good enough and he just what i wish to hear. And at this point I'm not sure if i want to keep treating him nice and put so much effort to be perfect for him ...i can't even think straight

Yes you are right anf that what I'm thinking of doing. I'm just worried that making arrangement could potentially take me months. I just moved used all my savings and i dying even have a job yet. I hehe to get one and start meeting money and trying to save while paying for rent and bills with him and its an expensive city we are in. How can i live those few months why him like nothing happen and is all good, While he continues to pretend like the love of his life and telling his friend and family about us ..... and I'm not young anymore as I'm 31 years old.

Yes to be honest i think that my only way out. I really don't have anyone i can go to or anyone that can lend me money and i have no car. If i tell him right now i will have to move out in thinking about having to just suppress what i feel and try to go Auth it until i have i find work and have enough to rent a small place. But it's not young to be easy. It's hard to find my feelings and i just don't want him to get near me either. And he already noticed something off about me. He told me couple times the last 2 days.

My family really can't help. My brother still a college student . I'm actually the one that help him with money . So that's not an option at all. No i wouldn't do that to him . And i can't believe he did that to me.

Yes i don't have any family at all in the USA. I'm originally european with an american second nationality . And my family in Europe can't help me financially. And my apartment lease ended right before i moved here with him. And i don't have enough money to get new place and flight ticket and go back to my city. Is so hard to believe he is a very nice, friendly, caring person. All his friends and coworkers and just about everyone respects him alot and think so highly of him and trust him.

I feel so blindsided and sort depressed with all this and i feel like I'm not sure where to start and if i should let him know i read those texts . And what his reaction will be like . And i am gonna have to move immediately after telling him kwnoig i don't have anywhere to go . I'm just kinda off afraid of what's coming as i put some much effort to move and worked hard to save money and i gave up on the city i wanted to live in just to move here . And the worst out of all this that everything we talked in the past he will insist how much trust is the most important thing in a relationship. Abs that his last relation ended because his ex cheated on him.