Sammygirl24

I may not have worded it the best but he has brought up the things she’s done to her. She shuts down, and he has already told her that she can’t just barge in anymore. It helps that at the moment she’s not living on the property anymore. She used to be allowed to go in when he wasn’t home as well, but he changed the locks. And I explained to my boyfriend the job was the last thing I was doing for her and he understands. From our discussions he’s trying to keep peace with her for the time being, since the property he currently lives on it was we will be buying from his parents. He doesn’t have the support of his parents to distance like he wants. He does back me up and he wants the same thing as me. Just with him still on the property with his parents and them being tired of the whole thing, kinda ties his hands for now. He broke down once (the man rarely ever cries) and said hes tempted to just up and leave it all behind because he’s fed up too. And he tells me the same thing. Worry about the now and not the future. I’m just scared of his parents turning resentment to me for some reason.

Mental health issues for sure. I’m not sure about any official diagnosis since my bf isn’t even sure, but there’s talk of possible split personality (idk if that an outdated term, I’m sorry if so and correct me please if I’m wrong) along with depression. From our knowledge there is no sexual abuse, but trauma from absent busy parents and a lot of loss at a young age (grandparents, uncle, etc) my bf just ignores her antics cuz he finds it all annoying, and my sadness and pain makes him angry (not at me) and he doesn’t like to get angry. She’s always gotten away with everything (she younger) and trying to talk to her about anything only makes her shut down. She refuses to go back to therapy

This is a bit of a story, but any advice or input would help me so much. my boyfriend and I have been together for 3 years, and in the beginning me and his sister got along fine. We weren’t super close but got along good. After about 6 months (summer) she wanted to go to the beach and do things with me, and I was super excited cuz all my past relationships have been toxic and I was excited to finally have an in law. I started a new job and wasn’t available as much, and one day she just stopped asking me to hang out. after a couple of months of only seeing her around the property, we ended up going to a local bar with other friends. When we were alone; she told me when my bf and I first met on a dating app, that he was stuck between me and another girl and only Chose me because the other girl changed her mind. Of course I immediately called my boyfriend and as soon as I dialed, her back peddling began. My bf told the truth. He was talking to a girl with that name, a year before we Met, and they only spoke a couple of Times. The situation was let go because she was drunk and denied malicious intent. 6 months later I was spending the night at my boyfriends house, we would have beeN together for a year and a half at this point. I open the drawer ive been using since the beginning of our relationship, to find underwear that doesn’t belong to me. I’m shock, all I said was these aren’t mine and left the room. My boyfriend gets up, and walks out the door. I didn’t know what was going on. When he gets back his mom is with him, and he’s clearly upset/sad/angry, and asks her if he was over to his house (neighbours) and accidentally put them there. She said no but confirmed that they were 100% his sister cuz she saw them in the wash recently. She has no idea how they made it next door, into my drawer. And of course, the sister denies it. ove this past summer I got her a job with me, since the pandemic work has been tough, and even after everything she put me through, when she asked if I could get her an interview I did. After she got the job she repaid me by talking ill of my to my coworkers (one being my cousin) and telling me the bosses were saying I was too slow at the job and I was the worst employee. She only did it to turn my self esteem. iF you’ve made it this far, im So sorry for the length. So much has happened. This last part is the most recent tho. one night she came over and was just hanging out when she asked my bf if she could spend the night on the couch. No big deal. Before anyone could say anything in response she said “if you guys wanna *** it’s okay I don’t mind listening”. as someone with siblings this completely mind blew me and my bf. He just said no. And to go back to their parents. My boyfriend found it weird and says he spoke to her and she just wasn’t thinking before she spoke. he has since kinda just pushed it aside and forgot about it, but it still sits weird with me. When we’re at family meals i sometimes see her licking her fingers and staring at him, idk if it’s supposed to be a childish joke or something a little darker. She has no boundaries. We plan to move in together within the next couple of years. And I’m scared of what’s going to happen. My boyfriend says there will be boundaries and he won’t let me be uncomfortable especially in my own home, but I feel guilty since the family is so close knit and as of now if she wants to come over she can just barge in. And scared of her reaction when those boundaries are put in place and she can’t just invade whenever she wants. thanks for reading. I’m just wondering what other people would do if they were me, or my advice on maybe what her deal is. Cuz my mind as been over ever scenario, and i mean every single one.