majko

Hi guys, I posted here 2,5 years ago about my situation: It seemed hopeless then, but it worked, until now. We had a great relationship for 2 years, we travelled a lot, spent a lot of time together, she was very happy with me, she told me that finally she found true love and was in a healthy relationship. But in the last months, our differences started to show up more and more. She wanted to travel even more, go on hikes a lot, do sports etc., I just wanted to work more so I can make my company work better and support our future family. Also I started to communicate less, visit her less, and we didnt have too much to talk about as in the beginning. Many times I refused to go with her where she wanted because I didnt want to waste money on frequent travelling or I had to finish work, or I just wasnt interested in hiking as much as her, she really loves hiking. She just had much more energy and wanted to live life to the fullest. Then in december, she went to Austria for 3 months to work in a ski bar, and after 2 days she told me that she wants to break up that I dont give her attention and I dont care about her, she mentioned all the things about hiking and travelling. And it was true, it really hit me, I got emotional and I wanted to change it becasue I knew I really need her and want a future with her. I apologized and visited her for a few days on a new year and everything seemed okay. Then I visited her in the beginning of february and everything was great too. We planned our next trip to Azores and we bought some hiking equipment. I also have to mention that I found out she started to communicate with some guy who does all the sports she likes and has a travel company. They started to talk even before she left to Austria. I bet she wanted to leave me for him, he even sent her a letter abou how much he wants her, but after I visited and everything was fine, she told him she is not interested, but they remained communicatig. Now the time of her return has almost come, maybe one more week was left, but in the last few days she stopped responding to me, just short neutral responses, didnt want to call etc. And then one evening she told me she is sorry for everything, that she wants to break up because she gave me a chance and it was not working anyway, that I stopped giving her enough attention again, and she feels alone in the realtionship and I dont give her enough love. This devastated me because I was really excited to start a new life together after 3 month separation, we were about to live together when she comes back and everything could be fine. She told me it is her decision and she is very sure of it. I told her, if it has to happen, I just want to break up in person and I came to visit her, we talked about it, at first she seemed to be okay and had no hard emotions, but later in the night we cried together. She said she wants to know what happens to me and that she still loves me but the realtionship, and my approach, was hurting her. I said it would change once we live together, and that Im not good at long distance communication. And it is true, these things never happened when we were together, everything was fine then. So this is the situation, the break up happened 2 days ago and since then we only texted few words about if I made it home safely. I said I dont want to stay in contact because it will hurt. But to see that I suddenly dont have her is hurting me even more. I dont know how to fix this, and if it is even possible, but I really believe she is the best girl I could ever have, we wanted to have family together and just stay together and work through everything, but she changed her mind. I know I probably should just forget it, but I need to know your opinions on what would you do to get her back. Should i wait until she comes home and then meet her and suggest to go hiking and talk? We need to meet to give each other some things anyway. Thank you so much. (before we started the relationship, we had a little "break up" becasue she decided she wants to stay with her boyfriend, but then changed her mind after a few days and chose me)

Hello I will try to explain my situation. Me(21) and this girl(18) met like 4 years ago in summer and she really was into me but I kinda rejected/ignored her becasue of the age even though I liked her, we hanged out once but nothing really happened, then after some time we stopped texting and forgot. But at the beginning of this summer she texted me out of nowhere, we started hanging out again, had a good time, told me she has a boyfriend but after she told me about her relationship, how it got worse lately and after we looked at our old messages and regretted everything, it got too emotional and we kissed but later she told me she doesn´t want to destroy that relationship with him and kinda friendzoned me(that all happened in like 4 days). But the emotion did not go away both on my and her side, we continued hanging out, slept together(only cuddles) few times and still kissed from time to time. I basically spent almost whole summer with her except for 3 week vacation with my bros. Now when I returned we were together again and she really started taking the friendzone more seriously I even considered ghosting her because I would always have some feelings for her if we stayed friends and it would only hurt me but I didnt do it. But yesterday we spent lot of time together and a night together. It was all cuddles kisses again just a lot of fun and tension, she said she had a great time with me, we kissed when I brought her home and then texted how we miss each other and she sent me some song about how she still has feelings for me. We called at night she said again how great it was, but asked me why didnt I ghost her already, I told her I actually wanted to but there just was something that didn´t allow me to do it, and she started crying said gn and it was all just so sad. Also, I would actually do none of this if her relationship was all good but I found out she is not too happy with him and wanted to leave him so many times, she said its like a rollercoaster with him, like ups and downs but much more downs, so I had some hopes. Yes im not experienced with relationships so I ***ed up badly probably but I just dont want to lose her forever I love her, do you think there are any hopes for future? Becasue today im gonna meet her( she said I can block her but she obviously wants me to come) and I really dont know what to do, should we say goodbye to each other and go on with our lives (if so is there any chance for another reunion possibly?) or should I try to wait until she breaks up with him (which might come soon it seems) and support her and then try something, or do you have some other ideas? I don´t really know, please someone who made it here throuh the pile of text tell me what you think of this. Thank you for all the help. No sex happened just to be clear and she is really hot and intelligent, guys chase her a lot so I dont think she is gonna stay single for a long time if she breaks up.