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It's not so much a question of my family being perfect...their dislike of my boyfriend centers around his race and his religious affiliation (or rather lack thereof.) I am appalled at their attitudes and while I've been protective of him (basically not arranging any family/bf meetings) I'm realizing that I have an important choice to make when it comes to committing myself to him completely in the face of their opposition. Thank you, Phoenix, though for your opinion.

Kung fu, thanks for the guidelines on LDRs. Anyone else out there have additional suggestions on how to maintain a successful LDR? Please share your experiences...this is totally new territory to me.

Thank you, Phoenix, for sharing your experience. One of the reasons I found it difficult to agree to the move was the disapproval of my family and the strife it caused in my relationship. Now 29, you would think I would have outgrown the burden of their approval and I think one of the reasons I have so many regrets about not having to agreed to go with him is that I now realize that I let their feelings hinder me from doing what I would really wanted to do.

I know that I'm not crazy about the area he's moved to (U.S. Southwest) but it's killing me not to be near him and I don't know if that's just because the wound is so fresh that the pain is clouding my judgment but if you gave me the option today to pack my bags and join him, I'd be there tonight. But what about two months from now? I don't want to feel as though I made the decision to move just because I was looking for a balm to ease the pain of separation. He's also said he wants me to make sure I don't make a hasty decision and that I consider all the ramifications of relocating because he doesn't want to bear the burden of my unhappiness if I make the move just because of him. I'm not a very patient person but perhaps I just have to give it time. While I wait for time to pass though I feel strangled by depression.

My boyfriend of two years moved out two weeks ago to relocate to another state. A few months ago he asked me to consider moving with him to a new area with a better cost of living, less pollution, etc. and I stalled, not certain if I wanted to move out of the area where I've lived my entire life. Now he's gone through with his plans and transferred jobs and I'm left here, kicking myself for not agreeing to go with him in the first place. We've continued to talk every day and while we're on the phone together, I feel restored to some sort of normality but as soon as we hang up, all I'm living for is his next call. This makes me feel quite pathetic but the only thing that lifts my dejected spirits is his voice. He's invited me to come visit next weekend but I have this overwhelming paranoia that in the meantime he's going to meet someone else or simply cease contact and the trip to visit him isn't going to happen. Does anyone have any advice on how to cope so that my days don't seem so dark with just the slightest bit of sun peeking through when he calls?