derekflint

Thank you both very much for your advice. I actually randomly got a phone call from her a couple minutes ago while she was on break and she told me she's willing to help in any way. She mentioned she's interested in trying to see once again what I wanted to show her as far as my interests and passions. Do you have any suggestions as to how to begin this long overdue process?

In my own opinion, my girlfriend and I do not have enough in common, and even though for the most part we've been happy for the last three years, this opinion of mine keeps haunting me. I have brought it up before to her, and she doesn't think it's a problem. I actually tried introducing her to things that greatly interested me, but that met little success. It is difficult to have deep, lengthy conversations with her about my interests because she becomes disinterested. This greatly saddened me... and I eventually reached a point where I stopped trying to arouse her interest in my interests. I began to ignore the problem and just hoped conversation with close male friends would be enough to fufill my need for communication. I thought everything was fine UNTIL I had to begin working at school on an assignment with a female partner. We quickly became friends and I realized we shared a lot of common ground. We had a number of interesting and stimulating conversations. This encounter made me realize how much is really missing from my current relationship. Please don't get me wrong... there are a lot of good things in our relationship. I REALLY want to make this work, but it's next to impossible to fix a problem she doesn't think exists. It's tearing the both of us apart. Should I break this relationship off for this reason alone? I've been thinking more in the long-term and it's becoming hard to imagine living with this problem forever. If I don't break this off, do I try to "fix" the problem? Am I the problem? Any help would be great.