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I don't think this particular guy shows emotions well. What I'm asking is, if he continues to treat me well, then should I be hurt if he says something insensitive like that? Should I bring it up? I am attracted to him, but even if I was friends with a girl and she said that to me it would hurt my feelings. If it was a girl I would say "hey that hurt" and explain. I am comfortable doing that with a female friend, but in my previous dating and friendship experiences, not to mention my brothers, when I have explained how I was hurt by something, their reaction is to be defensive and get upset, tell me that I'm overacting, basically invalidate my feelings. so how do you tell a guy when they hurt you?? and I think it's a decent book, it has helped me point out some of my flaws, I have changed my behavior and it has been positive. I wish I had read it with my first relationship because we fought just like how that book described.

this is about communication and relationships between men and women.me and my guy friend were talking, having a personal conversation about our issues, life in general and I said to him, wow we have a lot in common don't we (because we really do) and he said "well I don't really think like that I can talk to everybody" that really hurt my feelings!! so now I think about how men and women communicate different, (have you ever read men are from mars, women are from venus?) and I wonder, hmmm is he trying to tell me to back off, not be so emotional, or does he not want to admit it, or is he just not really thinking about what he's saying? I want to tell him that my feelings were hurt, but he probably would get defensive and think I'm obsessing, he probably doesn't even remember saying it. but it really hurt. I felt like I had a connection with him, at least as a friend, because we talk about a lot of personal stuff, and he listens to me, and he has told me things and I seem to be able to get him to open up to me. I don't want to ruin that, but, what if he meant that! and he really doesn't think I'm that special of a friend. I learned that with men, you are supposed to watch their actions and not their words, and his actions are positive, but his words are not very caring. anybody have an opinion on this?