Forgive me if I'm a little scattered today. My world crumbled last night.
I have been in a very loving relationship for the past 3 years with a wonderful woman. We had our ups and downs but were seamingly a happy couple. I found out 4 days ago that she had an affair on me for 1 1/2 yrs of our 3 year relationship with a man (a minister no less). After I found that out I also found out there had been 2 others.
I have no doubt that she is truly sorry and she does realize that she has made some terrible choices. I am willing to work past her cheating and fix our relationship. Her dilema is that she doesn't know if she is a lesbian. After 3 years of being with me, during which time she fell in love with me and says she still is. She said she needs time to be completely by herself to figure this out. Obviously its killing me. We broke up last night which just happened to be our 3 year anniversary.
How can she not be gay? I think she is, of course it could be wishful thinking. I know her biological clock is ticking and those thoughts are going through her mind. What can I do, other than wait, to help her. I don't want her to think that I am moving on because I can't.
If anyone has any advice or has been in mine or her situation please help.
My heart is breaking and I miss her terribly already.
