Philmaximus

thank you all for getting back so quick! as any help i get is going to feed my mind and help me think about what the right thing to do is. On the quote that, she was tricked, maybe that isn't so, i meant more that he came ova (the ex) and gave her everything that he had denied her in their long relationship, showed her affective, desire, want, and then as soon as it was over, got in a mood with her, came out with some comment, suggesting that he had "done her over" and left...... he knew what he was doing, she was weak, but i agree with your points that at the time, she couldn't of cared for my feelings, and was in her right mind..... thats one of the hardest things, she knew what was doing, knowing that her bf who gave her everything she neva had was round the corner dreaming of her..... and sayer7, its true, there were no problems in our relationship at all, it couldn't of been any better, i'm sorry u seemed like u were hurt too... like u, i couldn't of been any more loyal to her (and yes i have messed up b4 n another r-ship) but it wasn't going to happen this time, cause it was so right. I do need time, cause i can't fink right now, let alone brief.. and it will be a matter of weighin up the pro's and the con's . . . but maybe she does need to learn... even though i don't want to lose her... thanx

Hi guys, reading through these forums, there seems2b soom great people offering some great advice. i'm in need of this now..i've had my heart broken and don't know whether to repair it with the person who broke it or let time be the key..... here's my story, thanks 6 months ago, i met the most amazing girl, who was just coming out of a difficult 5year relationship, which i helped her through in a gentleman-like manner. We knew we liked eachother and i helped her from being trapped and helped her mentally to be free from all the pain and hurt. Thereafter, we both couldn't hide our feelings and over the last 2 months, have shared the most amazin time together in eachother's company. life really could not of been better, and we soon knew we were in love with one another and we had everything, not one aspect could be better. From being in a couple of deep relationships before, i know that i am not being naive to the feelings we have, they are true, and better than anything. (were) However, last week, her ex came ova one evening to return and pick up some things, and he trapped her, and acted like everything she had ever wanted out of their relationship, and tricked her into spending the night together. I was told (by her) the morning after, and have been absolutely devastated over this xmas period, i've hardly been able to breath or do anything. She has been the same, and could not feel any worse about what happened, and so realises what she's done and is frightened that she's lost me, and now realises what i meant to her. My dilemma, is my battle between my head and my heart. my heart doesn't want to lose the fantastic time we shared, but my morals and dignity are also fighting to say no. She knows that she only wants me, but is it too late now... i don't want to lose her, and trust her (Where i wouldn't usually) that she is so sorry and believe it can make her a better person for me.. but don't know what to d, i don't want to be weak, but don't want to lose her, I do love her, and I know and she does now that she loves me too and doesn't wan to be without me… she's so sorry…. What should I do…..?