funtobearound

When I was alot younger I used to use this one..

I had to have an ice cube around though,

"Did you know that there are 15 different things that you can do with this ice cube ?.. I just thought of another make that 16.."

It has worked about 5 times.. with 100%

You do have to be in the right type of conversation though..

One day at a time.. Take it Easy ...

My sobriety date is June 28, 1987 a little over 17 yrs..

I was just a little older than you are now when I bottomed out.

90 days... 90 meetings.. go to 1 a day and listen to the elders

Good luck

Roy

He can't love you.. He can be in love with the idea of you though.. but without truly knowing you face to face and how you react around and with him he just is being codependant

Beec,

You have a great insight.. I guess there are 2 sides to me.

The realistic side that says I'm living my life without her and doing just fine. But then there is the other side that because of the love I have for her would hold a piece of my heart aside just for her..

Maybe a little aloof .. but the little piece of my heart is pretty deeply hidden.

I have found from my past experiences that it's okay to live your life and still be in Love with someone.

Thanks Beec,

I looked at that letter for a week and never saw the changes you mentioned.. They are great.

Thanks for your comments.. I feel good I wrote it

Roy

I sent this letter to my ex after 2 months of being broken up.

I no longer wish to be back with her but I felt I neded to make amends to her in order to go on... Any Thoughts :

My Apology

XXXXX,

I'm not sure about the timing of this letter but once I wrote it I thought it was

important to send it to you. I hope you are willing to read it.

I've always felt that part of healing is making amends when and where possible.

I hope this amend is still possible.. I don't think the half assed apology I made a few

months ago was worthy. I have always been the type of person that looks at my place

in a situation and deals with my part in it. It's part of my character.

I am a better person today after knowing you. When we broke up I had no

choice but to look inside myself and find out why I acted the way I did with you.

I can honestly say that I had to do a lot of work on myself. I have grown from this.

It all came down on me one day.. Like a ton of bricks, emotions I couldn't stop…I let the

tears flow and grieved. I kept asking myself things like : What had I done to you ?.

Why do you hate me ? How could I fix it?..

Then for the first time in my life I learned that I couldn't fix something,

The only thing that I could do was disappear and fix me.

I have learned from my mistakes and from the mistakes I made regarding you

as well as my argumentative stance, and I deeply regret my behavior and lack

of respect that I brought to you and our relationship. I am Sorry. I had no right to

treat you the way I did. You were the one thing in my life that made so much sense to

me, we had staying power and I let my ego and other things ruin everything that we both

worked hard on. I am Sorry I hurt you.

I am deeply and truly in love with you and will be for the rest of my life..

I know that we will never see each other again and I accept that, but I want you

to know that on this journey that is called life I am so grateful to have loved and known

you and you will always be inside me, and please be careful on your journey without me

because you carry something very precious to me... you have my heart.

Love,

XXX