You've raised many more valid points. I'm not 100% sure where she stand with kids in general. I know that when she's around annoying, bratty kids, she tends to get edgy and agitated. On the other hand, when she sees a cute, well behaved child., she seems radiant.
We haven't discussed having kids much. I obviously need to talk to her at length about a great many things regarding this.
I suppose overall, my biggest fear is being put in a situation where I feel like I haqve to choose between them. If it comes to that, I know what I have to do, but I absolutely dread it.
But, before it comes to that, I will certainly try what you suggest and see if any progress can be made.