CFP022

Hey there Mag, thanks for the reply. You know, daily, I've been searching the internet, typing in random words such as "relationship advice", "loving each other on different levels", etc. I think I'm looking for an answer that's just not there. I'm not even sure if I know the problem too well? Do you think its a lack of love on his end? Maybe he just doesn't love me the way I love him? Or could it all be selfishness? Lack of experience? -Well...I know that's a big part of it as this is his first relationship. Each time I express my feelings to him, he almost laughs at me..he says its b/c he doesn't know what to tell me. I've expressed some of my needs, wants, etc. However as I mentioned before, his family is a big part of it. I don't want to interfere in his family relationship, but it appears he's not ready to grow up & be on his own. Does that makes sense? From my perspective, this issue closely correlates to to a very committed or even a married straight couple. When people get married, family is of course still important to them but their spouse becomes (or should become) the most important person in their life. They should turn to their spouse for everything, good & bad. And if both partners put the other first in their lives, and put the other person's needs above their own...then the needs of both people will be met as they will be caring for each other. To me that's love & commitment. Well..I better stop babbling on here. I'm just so confused & hurt. I certainly don't want to give up, I love this man dearly and have & will continue to do anything for him. I just need to find a way to determine if he really, deep down loves me...and if he does I would think that most of these little items, caring, sharing emotions, etc., would/will come naturally? -Or maybe not???

Hey everyone, I'm in despirate need of some advice, please help! I've been in a relationship going on 7 months now and I can honestly say I sincerely love my partner. Over the past several years I've been in relationships where the depth of care for that person was never this strong. Its actually quite overwhelming, but a great feeling to love someone on this level. I've expressed to my boyfriend/partner (never know what 2 call him?), how much I care. On a continual basis, as time passes, my love for him grows. I've made it clear that he's the one I'd like to spend a very long time with. He responds in the same manner, however when it comes down to it, we love each other on completely different levels. As one knows, there are many different factors that tie together a healthy relationship, some big issues, others are the little stuff...the day to day things. On a regular basis, because I love him, I make sure to go out of my way to be there for him, to give him positive reinforcement, to fulfill his emotional, intellectual, sexual, etc., needs. He's been placed at the top of my priority list in life. The problem we face is that our relationship is one-way. All the things I do for him, I don't receive in return. Mainly its the lack of emotional support and reinforcement that bothers me. Family is important to him and they are not accepting of me, thereforeeeeeee I'm left to spend Holiday's alone. When he has problems, he doesn't like coming to me. I feel unappreciated, like I don't have a purpose in our relationship. On several occasions in the past, I've caught him in lies and I've forgiven him. It almost appears he does not take our relationship as seriously as I do. I always communicate and pour out my heart to him on a regular basis to ensure he knows how I feel but I never get any kind of feedback. I'm not quite sure what to do here...most of this may seem petty...but I'm sure some of you can relate. I just want to be loved the way I love him. Is that too much to ask? Any feedback, good or bad will help. Thanks.