Well. Monday night i ws talking to my boyfirned because i was asking him what was going on. We had gone to dinner that saturday and i thought it ws all fine but then when we got into his car he was semi distant. i won't lie i was a bit upset with the fact that i had not received a hug or anything when he saw me and all night.
*** Well let me give u guys some background. we had been friends for about 1 year when we became "friends with privalages" a while later after that we eventually became a couple. We have been friends for about 5 years now and a couple almost 4. he is my best friend. he use to live exactly 6 minutes from my house and then out of the blue last december his parents decided to move to Winchester, VA i live in Woodbridge, VA thats about an hour and 45 minutes to his house and to mine from his. he works in Manassas, VA which is about 45 minutes from my home. This has put strain in our relationship to tell you the truth. it was hard for me to adjust to the fact that when i called him he would not be there in just minutes now we have to plan well in advanced to hang out because i have 1 ft job and school and just got a 2nd part time and now our scheduales do not balance. we do see each other when he does come to my house but we are both tired and just wind up watching tv. ***
--well on that saturday something was up and i felt it then again on sunday we went to a comedy club and again i did not get a hug or kiss and instead of stain at my house after coming home from Washington he decieded to drive home, i had to work because my 2nd job is overnight cashiereing form 11 pm - 7 am. well i called him monday and asked what was up at first he did not say anyhing then he said that he wanted some time alone. that right now their was a lot of stuff going on and he also wanted some change,and that he felt that he was getting bored. i was shocked, because even if we are having problems i didn't know that he was wanting change and that sometimes he felt he could not be himself around me, he also said he needed to sort things out. i guess during the talk we had decided to take a break. i say i guess because i was not sure if it was a "break" or a "break up". he ws not clear in what he wanted. well i didn't call him again till sunday night and asked if we could at least have dinner on weds to talk face to face he said sure i got to his job , he's a mechanic, and he gave me n oil change, when he got off we went to see what movies were out. when we got out of the car and during the time that we were driving to them i was uncomfortable becuase i ws not sure what i was suppose to do with the situation, well i got out of the car and after walking a little while next to each other he put his arm around me, during this whole tim nothing came up about our conversation on monday, well we wound up not watching anything so we went to the mall, which we have not done in a while, and walked around, again at first no touching then he would put his arm around me and i would hold his hand, well we went to dinner and he began to talk to me about some problems at his job, big ones, that he hadn't told me before. after dinner he wound up coming to my house. i had to work that night so i left around 11 and didn't see him again till this mornign when i got home b4 he left for work. during the whole time yesterday the only things that came up about our monday night conversation were:
me*so whats going to happen? him*i don't know (and we both ate a chip from our appitizer and in the car i said "im confused" him*me to.
i know right now we need our time to deal with our issues but i don' want to leave him. i also don't understand what he is thinking? i'm afraid to bring up the conversation because it seems that he doesn't want to talk about it, maybe act like nothing happened. i don't know what to do.and don't understand whats going on what do you think?
