My girlfriend and I have been going out for about a year and 3 months now and sexually I feel a bit frustrated. Sexually the farthest she ever wants to go is merely dry sex and then a handjob. Now at first this felt good but eventually she was getting more out of the dry sex than i was and when it came time for her to give me a handjob it took me forever to go(Perhaps its way she does it??). As for oral sex she believes that it is considered sex, and we both agreed not to have sex until marriage. Now marriage aint coming around any time soon and I dont believe Oral sex to be the same as regular intercourse(thats What i agreed to wait for). So to try to be understanding and respectful i told her that if she considers it part of sex then we would wait but sexually it is really frustrating me. I want to know is there anything i can do to ease her mind about oral sex, i mean im understanding but im feeling really empty sexually right now.
