Bewildered003

holy crud das420--- I'm 20, my now ex is 23 and we also dated for the last 3 months of my senior year (he was only supposed to be a prom date). Just thought it was ironic. Carly (bewildered003)

this has all been very helpful. in many ways I want to move on. one (silly) reason for this is to show him that I don't need him. and i also want to experience what else is out there. any tips for moving on? He just called it quits with me last night and it has taken everything in my power to not call him. It's hard when he was so much a part of my life and now he's all I can think about. Until Saturday, I am taking care of my nephews while their parents are away, so I'm stuck there, can't go out with friends, I'm basically left to dwell on alone. Thanks for the replies. Although it's not what I want to hear, on some level I know its right.

I was living with my boyfriend for two years when he said he thought we should take an indefinite break. That was about a month ago. I convinced him meet up with me in two weeks to see if anything had changed. Two weeks after, we got back together, and I did the best I could to make sure he really wanted this, and I was convinced it was what he wanted. Now, two weeks after getting back together, he says he wants another break. (I don't know if there is any possibility in his mind of us getting back together) I have made it very clear that if he does this this time, I'm not going to get back together with him. I love him and he says he still loves me. We didn't have huge problems in our relationship, just little things. He says he "needs to find himself" and when the time comes that he wants me back, if he wants me back, if I'm there, good and if I'm not it's his fault. It doesn't feel right not to be with him. Part of me tells me that I should just let him go, if he can risk our relationship like this, he's not worth it. But the other part feels like this is horribly wrong. We had a lot of good things going between us and I am not ready to let go. I have a lot of questions about why this is happening. Questions he won't answer- he says he doesn't know the answers. So do I just give it time? And after the time is up, and if he wants me back, do I take him back after telling him that I won't play the games anymore? Do I just try to forget him and try to move on? Is it common for a guy to want to "find himself" or did he get that line from a movie? I do want him back and I feel like it isn't over yet. I just don't know what to do. HELP