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I'll touch on those two points, she is definitely the type you describe. When she is ready to date, she wants it to be for real, and forever. As for the second point, we did have that conversation, and she said she would very much be open to re-opening the subject of dating when she's ready. As I said, she told me I have many of the qualities she's going to be looking for in a husband, and that it was "totally" just that the timing wasn't right at the moment. She wants to accomplish her other goals and then in a position to give her all to a relationship, which I totally admire and respect.

Hi there, I'll be 33 this month. I was married for nearly 10 years, divorced last August. I've become interested in a woman who is 21. We belong to the same congregation, and I've known her there for about 5 years. I expressed to her my interest in getting to know her better and dating. She replied after thinking it over that I am someone she could be interested in in the future, I have many qualities she's going to be looking for, but that the timing just isn't right at the moment. She's not going to be dating anyone, as she has a number of goals she'd like to aim for, and things she wants to do before getting involved with anyone. I'm 100% sure she's sincere about all of that. She said it would be at least a year until she was ready to date, but perhaps more like 2 or 3. I'm actually OK with that. I think I could use the time to work on things to improve myself and accomplish a few things on my own. Besides, it might be nice to just be "single" for a bit. We haven't dated at all, but we see each other in the congregation a couple times a week. I try to talk to her when I can, but not overwhelm her. When he talk, I feel there is definitely something there, the way she'll look at me as we finish up, a bit of a "sparkle" in her eyes...I think it's there, but am I just imagining it? She's done nothing to discourage me, so I can think that all is well, but I can't be sure. I think I'm really falling for this girl. She is smart, caring, and of course very pretty. I can assure you she is not one to play with another person's emotions. To wait all this time seems like torture. I'm thinking about her all the time, can't get her out of my head. It seems like if I have to go through a couple of years of this it will be worth it, if I don't burn myself out first. The thought in the back of my head that terrifies me, though it could be unfounded is that at the end of this time, it turns out she's not interested in me. That I've 1) wasted this time, and 2) gotten totally hung up on her. Sorry for the novel-length post here. I'd be interested in anyone's thoughts/advice on this matter.