zutesuteriot

OK, all of your points are valid. Since me writing the initial 'cry for help'. My partner and I have had a huge change. I have officially admitted to myself (after her telling me, in many ways) that she felt she was no longer in love with me. In the sense of passion. She loves me more than anyone else she has ever loved and I feel the same for her, except her love has stopped there. The passion inside her for me has died and she is now looking for someone else to fill that gap in her life. Someone that can make her feel good and feel sexy. I cant do that to her anymore. I never was able to. And the difficult thing to understand for me is that I have always felt it. Always.... I love her like nothing else, I crave her and want to please her desperately... but, never felt I could and got really clumsy in bed. We have split. And, I still hold that special place inside me for her and always will. (at least at this point in my life I can honestly say that) We have learned that nothing is eternal and to truly be human you need to explore, understand and live your true feelings... something I was not able to do... i think this is the true issue... i was not able to show her how i felt, and thats why I lost her...

I am in a relationship with a woman. We have been together for almost 3 years now. I love her very much, but can not seem to please her in bed. My self confidence and sexual drive have almost virtually gone out the window. This is obviously causing a lot of stress on our relationship. We are at a point where something has to change or it seems like the end of us. I love her like nothing else in the world, and dont want to lose her. But, i need help getting better in bed. I want to be able to initiate sex more often and even bring sex more into our day-to-day interactions. Please help if you can. -Scared and Desperate