Finding Hope and Strength After Unresolved Trauma

Trauma can be defined as an overwhelming amount of stress that exceeds one's ability to cope, or integrate the emotions involved with that experience. It is a disruption of emotional equilibrium that is often the result of a catastrophic event, accident, or a destruction of some kind. It is not only a collection of negative memories, but can also take the form of physical ailments, such as depression and anxiety, that can affect both your body and mental state. As time passes, unresolved trauma can become a chronic state of being, leaving an individual just barely afloat in an attempt to survive.

When someone experiences something traumatic and it is left unresolved, they can be left feeling helpless, hopeless and out of control. The helplessness that can accompany unresolved trauma can manifest in the form of nightmares, insomnia, difficulty concentrating, irritability, poor appetite, racing thoughts, regressive behaviors, and even physical symptoms, such as aches, pains, and digestive issues. In these situations, the mind and body can become overwhelmed by stress. Consequently, an individual may resort to a survival mode in order to cope with unbearable feelings.

Survival mode functioning starts from a state of being hyper-alert and vigilant --aroused and ready for survival at all times. You become an expert at scanning your environment for potential dangers and chase any “positive” moments of relief. The unfortunate side effect of this heightened alertness, however, is that it can cause significant psychological distress. Typically, unresolved trauma leads to people disengaging from the “normal” processes to heal and actively avoid certain triggers due to the fear of what may happen.

This means that survivors of unresolved trauma might experience a deep sense of disconnection, unable to truly find comfort in relationships, job activities, social engagements, and even physical activities. One begins to build a false identity based on the automatic reactions to the trauma. Since feelings of shame and guilt are commonly experienced during these moments of isolation, an individual might neglect their own physical needs in hopes of avoiding any further discomfort. In some cases, self-medication may also come into play in an attempt to numb the pain.

Unfortunately, unresolved trauma and the resulting cycles of avoidance and denial can significantly impair cognitive functioning and cause long-term psychological pain. Despite the best intentions, one's without seeking treatment remain at risk of engaging in destructive behaviors in an effort to protect themselves emotionally and spiritually. Fortunately, it is possible to move beyond the trauma and start taking steps towards healing and achieving growth.

Mental health professionals, such as psychiatrists, psychologists, social workers, and counselors, are trained to provide assistance to those dealing with unresolved trauma. Through one-on-one therapy sessions, along with supportive groups, individuals learn how to address the underlying causes of their pain, process memories, and begin to gain self-confidence and resilience. Connecting with a supportive community of fellow survivors who understand and know how to work through the complicated emotions linked to unresolved trauma can also prove to be extremely beneficial.

Unresolved trauma can make it difficult to take steps towards full recovery, but with the right help, it’s possible to achieve a new level of peace and happiness. Taking care of oneself, both mentally and physically, is necessary for long-term healing. Engage in regular physical activity, practice mindful breathing, and cultivate healthy relationships with family and friends. By gradually rebuilding trust and relearning how to respond to life's trials, you have the power to find hope, joy, and strength.