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I’m just going by the usual 45-60 day no contact. Judging by what’s been happening in the last 30 days I’d think that things are pointing towards she wants me to reach out but I’m not certain. I had bouts of 4-5 months at a time where I was relatively positive and then a period of time where I kind of fell off the wagon and was just a kind of negative overall type of person.

I think I’m going to message her at some point. But I think I’m gonna wait to at least 40 days. I’m honestly a bit surprised that she hasn’t reached out yet but she could be just as stubborn as me. I think I’ll reach out to her at about the 40 day mark And just say hey, what’s going on?

almost 3 years. she said i was negative quite often, and tended to complain. we had a good relationship and i was great with her kids. her parents and grandparents liked me. she told me that sfter some time thinking that she thinks its better that shes by herself. shes made a few references or reminders that shes still single too. shes posted that she went to olive garden by herself, that was our fav place. and just last night she randomly liked a new photo i put up on facebook. all of this but no reach out from her. I would like to reconcile.

So my ex and I broke up on march 13th. She had been distant for several weeks prior so i knew something was coming. Anyways we broke up, and she told me i could come pick up my things from the step that night so i did. I went over and did that, she didnt have the ability to see me face to face for some reason but she was putting the kids to bed. (her kids btw). She told me she was in just as much pain as me which i do believe. side note she has 2 maybe 3 of my random items still that i havent asked for yet. So anyways that happened and we parted ways. Obviously this has been a tough journey for myself for sure, but I have gone into no contact so far. We still have each other on social media, but none of us have directly reached out to the other. One thing I’ve noticed pretty much right after the break up was the typical constantly posting on Snapchat , way more than she ever used to do while we were together. I have decided to go the opposite route. I was not a social media poster. She has posted about 15 stories so far on her Snapchat and I have viewed about three of them. I am making sure that I’m waiting at least a few hours, if not almost a full day before I view hers if I do. I have maybe posted 2 so far and she’s either the first or second person to view it, and it usually takes her no more than five minutes, sometimes double views. That’s not the weirdest thing though. She has been turning her location on snap maps on and off to the point where I’ve noticed. It is currently on now and so is mine. If I was to turn mine off, I know that she will notice and turn hers off.does anyone have an idea why this may be happening? My limited knowledge on the subject tells me that she is still attached to me, but won’t say anything to me. It hasn’t been a month yet. She did tell me that she hoped I didn’t hate her and that she would like to still be friends, but I did make it clear to her that due to how she chose to end things I would find it very difficult to continue a friendship after the fact. This is kind of driving me crazy to be honest, and I would rather reach out to her and kind of say why are we playing games with each other and not having an adult discussion. But the other half of me wants to continue the no contact as in no direct reaching out and see what happens. I’m just looking for some advice on what people might think is happening here and if anyone needs more information, feel free to ask. Not sure if anyone else has gone through anything similar or not. Thanks, everyone in advance for any advice you may have! and please ask for any clarification :)