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Everyone should read his story. I followed it since day one and it was one hell of a learning experience for everyone who involved haha.

Great to hear man, and glad you're going places. I have a feeling, whether this lasts or not, you'll be in one hell of a position to not even think twice about it. Good luck once again!

Hey kid, thanks for the constant updates. Great post. It's nice to see someone give back to the community. Sincerely wish you all the best of luck my man.

Wow... was NOT expecting to read you post that, but congrats man I hope all works out. Interesting timing, my EX finally broke over 2 months of NC this afternoon and wants to meet up for drinks tomorrow night and was suggestive of me trying to get there earlier (presumably so we could spend more time together). I too have been dating, and while I'd be just fine with out my ex, and I am essentially "over" her, I'm just curious to see how its going to play out. I really hope in your situation that her changes are genuine, and you guys can continue working stuff out. And I totally know what you mean by either you have that physical connection or you don't, and in my experience, if its there, it's always been there from the start.

You too? Bahahha, I got a text a cpl weeks ago. Christ man.

Damn son. Didn't see that coming! Only you know how you feel man. All the best, I really hope this works out for ya! Keep us posted.

It sounds like you are in a good space with your new lady, Kid55.

 

And hey, check it out: true to your username, this epic thread has hit 55 pages. Maybe there's some magic in that number for you.

 

Hope you'll keep posting here now and then. It's cool to see the progression from your first post through to the present.

You ruined it by posting to page 56!! I HATE YOU haha, glad to hear it kid, I think you've made the right choice. Best of luck to you man.

My advice would be to keep hanging out with her. You'll either be crazy about each other and thedistance for those few months won't matter, or you'll get bored of each other and it'll end. You have 5 months where you are in decent proximity with her - I think that will work just fine. This way you can get through the early stages and figure out what you want in time for her to leave. I think this is a great opportunity man, and it seems to come at the right time.

Tough call man. Very tough. When is she leaving for the summer? I'm assuming you have exams either this month or the next? If I were in your position I'd keep hanging out with her, see what happens. How far of a drive would it be from NYC to wherever she is in Florida? Considering you're starting a new career etc, it might just not make sense. Right people, wrong time? So altogether you'd be apart for about 9 months, barring visits every month or so?

Hey kid, one thing really hit home for me, and that's you saying this girl is not selfish and actually wants to make sure you're happy. That was a big thing with my ex too, and very refreshing to hear your progress right now. Shows that if we just do us, anything is possible.

Hopefully things with E and you work out, and if they don't, at least you've had that epiphany that there's lots more out there. Glad to hear man, keep rollin'.

glad it was a gongshow man. When we went we drank for like 18 hours straight. Best time of my life. hopefully going back in April. Rock on.

I agree kid, it sucks not having that special person to share it with. Glad to hear things are going well, knock em dead. Hope you're having a blast in the DR.

Still get the sense of being violated, you know? My room mate had trouble sleeping last night. These kids are basically done for and I'm not gonna do anything stupid on my end that will prevent me from going on vacation next week.

 

I had to meet with campus safety today and I honestly can't make this stuff up, but I saw my ex again. Sucks because she was always the person I went to whenever I had the occasional issue and she was always a good listener.

When it rains it pours. You're obviously stressed out, so seeing her right now doesn't help...just wait till next weekend when you're out, you definitely need a vacay.

^ I have an eharmony account, but I haven't paid yet so I can't see people haha

I've had one up for a while, as soon as I switched my profile from the typical "hi i like camping" to some random crap that popped up into my head, I started getting way more messages. Totally agree, it's like the bar scene hahaha.

Do I miss my ex or do I miss the closeness of that relationship?

 

Something that I've been debating recently. I really miss having someone there to share my good news with. Friends and family are great and I never take them for granted, but there's no better feeling than seeing that special girl light up when you have good news to share with her. And I always seem to have good things happening to me. I don't always want to go running off and tell my friends because I'll feel like I'm bragging then.

 

I think I miss my ex more as a best friend than as a girlfriend. The whole friends things would never work, but yeah, I miss having that person who I had a crazy strong connection with.

Exactly how I feel man. Maybe some day. I think until we actually find someone to fill in that void, someone who CAN be our best friend..they'll always be in the back of our minds. Or the front. haha.

Yeah, don't be taking a plunge. Real changes need to happen as faithful commented in your other thread. If he gets comfortable with you before being a different person then he'll just revert back.

Daisy, thanks for sharing and best of luck with the situation. Sounds you're being smart about this. Don't wreck all of this progress until you're SURE he's changed.

I'm honestly glad to see this up and down emotion from you man. You've clearly grown so much from this experience, and it really shows. Take it for what it is, a learning experience. Looking at it from the outside, you ex is no good for you. She's not emotionally mature, nowhere near close to you. At this time in life, she's not right for you. She may never mature, and that's a fact we all must accept about our ex.

It would be so much different if any of us were abusive, immature, etc. our faults were that we cared too damn much. Now we know better. And still, at that, it's not a fault of ours. It's how we were raised. To treat women well..nothing wrong with that.

Stay strong man, don't let these new flakey chicks get you down.

Well, my wife and I haven't divorced yet after 35 years. Doesn't necessarily mean you are wrong, of course, but we shall see.

That's awesome! My parents are at 27 years now

Not worth it, it just says to go NC for a month, work on yourself, get in touch again, do something fun, don't bring up the relationship. There ya go.

Yeah, it's a good support forum from what I've seen of it.

how to kick loves ass is based on Magic of Making Up, one of those e-books. Same advice you'd get on these boards.

*sniff*

smells like bitter

My Ex and I are dating again

 

Oh hell yeah man!! congrats!! I still read your advice when I have a wussy moment. Give us some more deets!

Stretch, and lots of it. Was it a sharp pain or a throbbing pain? This is one area I can help you with,