Superman87

Nice story for you all...

Two good friends of mine were together for 7 years, he proposed and everything seemed to be going well however 2 months later he called the engagement off and ended the relationship. She was heartbroken, his reasons were he felt like he hadnt lived etc and they both went and did their own thing, dating people etc. She never thought there was a chance they would get back together, 9 months later they get in contact again and start to see each other regularly. There now officially back together.

I reckon the reconcilliation process took perhaps over a month.

All those cheesey quotes really are true, if its meant to be it will be etc.

Since you went away, my heart breaks every day and you dont know cos your not here.

Never in my wildest dreams

did i think that i'd be on tv talkin 'bout me and you

girl..

i know ive seen it times before

same episode but a different show

so why are we in two

was it something i did or did not do to make you mad

didnt go out my way

supply everything that you asked

im confused

so tell me how we messed up

did we give up too soon

you can put it on me if you like

im just trying to make it right

baby

i just wanna start back

loving you the way i did before

yeah

tell me can we go back

if this love is real what we waiting for?

okay, let me get this straight

you say we never communicate

we're always at each other

we forgot how to love each other

and when was the last time

we both went out together

it used to be all the time

and now it seems like never

but girl, im listening

and i'ma change my mind

if you give me this chance

ill do it right this time

im only human babe

we all make mistakes

i swear i learnt my lesson

i hope its not too late

you can put it on me if you like

im just trying to make it right

i just wanna start back

loving you the way i did before

yeah

tell me can we go back

if this love is real what we waiting for?

i know it may not seem like the best thing

i feel i might be losing the best thing

all that we fought for

we worked so hard for

don't you remember

hold on

i just wanna start back

loving the way i did before

tell me can we go back

if this love is real what are we waiting for?

if this love is real what we waiting for?

i just wanna start back

loving you the way i did before

loving you the way i did before

tell me can we go back

if this love is real what are we waiting for?

if this love is real what we waiting for?

Should no contact extend to the ex's family? For example if it was your birthday and they text you to say all the best etc.

Curious.

Day 2

I am still feeling quite numb and empty I think. I dreamed about her all night which wasnt great when I woke up. I am still finding it hard to accept that after so long together, she wanted it to end so soon. I am getting my head around the no contact thing though and understand that I am doing this for my self only. I am taking up boxing and tonight is my first night, so I am looking forward to that. It is also my birthday tomorrow, so I am expecting to receive a text message where I will duly ignore it and delete.

PS - for those interested, I have gone No Contact immediately after the break-up. I know a lot of people go through the begging for another chance stage etc but I havent, so this challenge may be interesting to see how different methods work.

Ben.

Quick question - is there a best time to break no contact? I really want to do this firstly for myself, but deep down also to maybe hope she realises what she is close to losing.

Is it a case of continuing and if, and that is a big IF you receive a text asking to discuss things you then decide whether to make contact?

What a great idea, I was going to start keeping this down in a diary but this will be much better for me as hopefully at low times I can read the encouragement and advice.

Ok, so here go's...

Day 1 - Last night I was told that she loves me, but not in that special way anymore and doesnt see a future for us. She wants us to continue as friends and does not want me out of her life. I said this would not be possible. No contact started today and it couldnt have got off to a worse start, I received a text message this morning from the ex asking how I was. I deleted it straight away.

I am thinking about her so much, although I have yet to break down in floods of tears. I cant believe after over 5 years it has ended so suddenly without her wanting to fix the problems.

I am determined to do this.