I NEED HELP!!!!!
I have a boyfriend. We have been together about 2 years now. When we met we never talked about religion. I explained my religious beliefs and family traditions. He as well participated in all our social family events and holidays. I have not yet been able to meet his parents. A year after we had been dating he disclosed that his father was a Jehovah Witness and that he grew up between religions. His Grandmother was a Christian. He told me that currently he is not in a religion but that one day he will make a discussion and he knows it will be Jehovah Witness. He said that he will not participate in any holidays, festivities, or anything outside of the religion beliefs. He expects his wife to accept and understand his choice and follow his lead. He also wants his children to grow up this way.
This leads to my issue. I am a Latino women that has grew up in a catholic environment. My family is very festive and loves to have social family functions such as birthdays, holiday celebration etc.. I want to embrace those family values in my children as well as share that and other wonderful experience with my husband. Family is what makes me complete.
Originally I didn’t care what religion he choose just as long as we can both continue to participate in each other’s life openly. His form of compromise is ‘he will be selective on what he will be able to do’. But he does not want his children to celebrate any holidays or birthdays. Which I feel will be an instant segregation in the house whole and with each others family. I must stress currently he is not in a religion. This is what he wants in his future.
It’s now crunch time. We have let a year pass without coming into a solid conclusion. It’s pretty much a deal or no deal. Any suggestions???
