Cat76

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It always is easier when you meet someone else...

I agree with you there Misskitty16

There have been a lot of things (not connected with exes, etc) that have happened to me since the split, some good, some bad. But it all puts things onto persepctive for me.

Everyone here is different and however people choose to get over the heart break, even if it be getting back together, I think we have to be happy with ourselves. It works for me.

I'm not sad, angry or bitter anymore. I just told myself that it didn't work and that fine, things happen for a reason. If it's meant to be then it will be.

Hi All

I've come back for a little visit and to see if anybody is here from a couple of months ago.

I'm up to Day 100 and something, I gave up counting a couple of months ago. It really does get easier or maybe I wasn't as invested as I thought I was. I've had a few dates and got back on the horse 'as the saying goes' without giving you all too much information *wink*

Anybody seen Jellybaby41? (I think thats the right username)

Cat

this time it's my idea...

 

time to move on...

 

 

 

Hi imjgh

 

It's your idea, so your in control! I found NC quite empowering which for me was a good thing.

 

I'm on day 40 something or other (not really counting anymore), and I hope you can get to the same place too.

 

Hopefully you can still smile a little bit

hey cat, good to hear from you...i'm starting on my own nc since i'm about to have an ex for real....she should be here within the hour...i will post back when she's gone....i don't expect anything other than an exchange of stuff and good byes....

 

glad there is happiness on the other side...i am ready to get back to being the happy guy i am normally...this has taken a toll on me and you know what, life is too short to waste even one day....

Hi imjgh

I've highlighted my favourite part of your post, that's how I feel now, so it has to be a positive that you can at least think it every now and then (maybe not all the time, just yet)

It's really easy for me to say 'it get's better' and 'give it time' because I'm in a place where I am quite happy to be on my own or with someone (actually at the moment, I think I would prefer to be on my own, but I'm not sure why yet..hmm..have to figure that one out).

I hope it goes ok (not the right word, I know) tonight.

Cat

Hi All

I've come back for a little visit. I am up to day 40, and I had to go back to my old posts to check that! I'll try and remember when I get to 60 and have a little celebration...LOL

Things didn't work out with the new guy I met, but that's ok, there was no emotional investment and it took my mind off the ex relationship.

Most things are good. I hope everyone else is ok

Cat

x

that statement in Bold is what we should all be striving towards with NC. But the truth is some or most are'nt.

Oh I quite agree that NC does start with the hope of them wanting us back, I felt like that.

I don't want to take away anyones hope. Maybe it just takes time and acceptance to really appreciate that in the end it's for ourselves.

Best of luck to you imjgh, well done for getting to the 30 days. I hope it works out for you, however things turn out.

I bolded the bit of your post that was most important to me and hopefully to other people on here.

Day 30

 

I wished that I could rejoice over my 30 days but I don't much feel like it. I feel like I am going backwards again. Like it is just sinking in that this is real ... that I will never see or hear from him again and it is hurting.

 

What are we meant to feel at 30 days? Spurred on by our success to do another 30? Heres to the next 30 I guess. I hope I feel better by then that I do right now.

Whoop whoop! Well done Jellybaby.

I may not be around here as much but I will keep checking and cheering you on to another 30 days.

I'm lucky that I had a different way to get over my ex, but I know from previous relationships that it can take a whole lot longer and be a very painful journey. But it is a journey and the destination will be your happiness, however you find it.

Hope your able to smile.

Cat

x

Day 29

 

Almost there. I would have thought I would be feeling a bit better at this stage. I guess I am to the extent that he has less of a monopoly on my mind so the pain is less frequent. But when the pain comes it can still hurt as much.

Well done Jellybaby, you've done good

Are you going to have a 30 day party?

yeppers....

 

did yours say "I may wobble, but I won't fall down!" too? lol

I descend from a long distinguished line of weebles...LOL

my mom used to say that worry never solved anything. mom was right...focus on your future...can't change the past. we can't control another persons actions or thoughts....let them go...

 

go live YOUR life...you have control of that and that alone...

Very good advice, my mum said the same thing to me.

Mum's are great aren't they

Day 60

 

Wow. I made it

 

I'm kinda happy being single, actually. It's a refreshing change for now. I don't think I'll be counting the days anymore, and won't come back here unless I break NC. For those of you going through it now, best of luck, keep your chins up and remember: you're doing this for YOU.

 

Good job Cat! Glad to see you so positive and inspiring on this thread!

Wahoo, well done SG.

I'm the same as you, I'm on here less and less. But it has been so helpful, especially your posts. Your also very positive and inspiring.

Day 33 (I think), I'm going to stop counting, it only makes me think of the ex, and I'd rather not. Not because it hurts, it's just a waste of my time...LOL.

wonderful news cat!!!!

Thanks.

It didn't take much for me to get over it, the minute I find out someone has lied to me/about me (as I did about him) or cheated, that person just doesn't exist anymore. I'm not angry or upset. I don't feel anything, just indifference.

Everybody on here has been very supportive and I don't think I would have made it to this point without the encouragment. I may stick around and spread the Cat love, but you'll all get annoyed with my jollyness eventually...you'll be begging me to log off...LOL

Ta muchly

Start of day 32.

I haven't been on here as much for a couple of days. I have been feeling so much better about things. I don't want the ex back at all and things are progressing nicely (but carefully) with the new guy.

Hope everybody else is ok

Thank you. I agree and I think not saying anything or rising to the bait says more about me

Hi Cat

 

I have only just read your thread - must have just missed it yestereday. Hope you are feeling better today. I think you did the right thing by not sending the email.

 

Congrats on getting to 30 days. Are you sticking with this thread? I think I will be. Dont think I'm quite "there" yet. Day 25 for me and I'm feeling better that I have in the last few days. I think I feel more positive abut the future again.

Thanks...Your catching me up

I might hang around for a while. I like to keep you up to date with my wobbles.

Thanks pace and philove.

HI Guys

I am so pleased with myself that I got to Day 30. I've had some interesting/troubling news yesterday. The ex is telling a mutual friend that he has tried to get in contact with me (to make himself look good)

This is the link, it's on the healing forum - anybody wants to comment, give advice, please do. I'm stuck with what to do, if I defend myself it forces me to make contact and he might get an ego trip that he still has an effect on me. But I can't stand it when people lie to or about me.

It does makes me more determind though. Roll on the next 30 days.

Whoop whoop

Good for you!!! It was how I got over the break-up of my marriage. OK, so it didn't work out and it was the reason I found eNA ... LOL ... but nevertheless it still worked in its way!!

 

Day 24 ... I think

 

I'm glad to say that I am having a better day than yesterday although not perfect but then I don't expect it to be.

Thank you Jellybaby. I'm glad your having a better day It's always a bit up and down at first.

Are you here at the moment?

I've just started another post on the healing forum. My ex is being an idiot. Have a read, it's worth a giggle. I am pretty mad at the moment though, and that just makes me more determind.

Cat76, I know how that can be a bit of a setback! However, it really frustrates me, because he has been commenting on MY (not mutual by any means) friend's statuses and pictures! One of my friends got so annoyed by it that she told me she defriended him.

 

I went on a weekend getaway to the beach this past weekend with a good friend of mine, and I signed her wall saying how much I was looking forward to the trip. Then, while we were there, I opened my FB to see see him showing up on my newsfeed, commenting on a status she wrote about the trip with nothing more than a smiley face. * * * ? vent>

 

Maybe I should just completely block him (I defriended), but I don't know if I am ready for that.

Hi

I did block him, but then my mutual friend said they wanted to organise a reunion and the ex is going to be there (and I'm not going to not go, just because he is there). I didn't want to seem bitter in front of my friends (I don't care what the ex thinks), so I ublocked him. But it's not really bothering me at the moment.

Maybe they just want us to see how fine they are without us. But we are doing fine without them...YES???

Hope your ok

Only one more day to go. What happens after that???

Just went on to facebook and my ex had posted on a mutual friends status. I had a slight twinge, but nothing major. Progress I think.

Must be something to do with the fact that I've kind of met someone else (on line and never done it before) and they seem very nice. The went a bit quiet for a while last week, but now they are back with a vengeance.

Hope everybody is doing ok too.

Someone once gave me some advice - the best way to get over a man, is to get on top of another one...LOL LOL LOL...so I am planning on doing just that.

Nearly at 30 days...whoop whoop

Day 23 for me also and I am having a bad one too.

 

I woke up so damn tired of it all this morning and I knew I was in for a bad day.

 

We can get through it tho, we WILL get through it!!

You will get through it Jellybaby You've been very helpful for me and lots of others on here, so the favour will be returned.

I forgot to post in this thread yesterday

 

it's day 55 now. Wow... I think I am so OVER this. I don't even feel like contacting the ex anymore.

 

FigureItOut and Cat76, great job! Keep on rollin', you know you can do it!

Thanks SG. Go you...\\

great for YOU cat!!!!

 

 

keep it up!!!!

Thank you. Still having the odd wobble, but I'm actually feeling positive about being on my own or meeting someone else (at the moment)