kalel

Thanks for your help, guys. And, I do see my ex on occasion. But not a lot. I'd rather not see her and have old feelings stir up. It took me months just to talk to other women again, after we split, and I guess...I just want to really get over her. But, I guess it takes time. But it's soooo frustrating. It almost at times seems unfair.

You think it could be an ego thing?

I've been broken up from my ex for almost a year now. I've dated many women, and...been with many women. I've had some good old fashioned innocent fun, and straight-up debauchery. I've met some fine women. Some better looking than my ex. But...I STILL THINK ABOUT THIS WOMAN! No matter if I'm with the hottest woman, no matter how steamy the sex, my mind drifts off to her. I'm...worried. Why do I keep thinking about her?

I'm just at a loss. I HATE the un-explained. I want a reason why I can't get a woman off my mind who now is on love with another man. I want to know why, as decent looking as I am, no matter what woman I get with, my ex is on my mind. People...is something wrong with me?

Good point. I think a LOT of it is ego. But...the fact that she's in love with somebody...it's like, how come SHE gets to get over me and find her soulmate, but I get to twist in the wind? And I DON'T want to think about her, at all. I'm getting better with it. But, it still stings.

I've been broken up with my ex-fiance for a few months now. She's now in love (with Mr. Perfect), and I'm trying to let her go. To finally get over her. It's starting to work, but I still can't stop thinking about her. Dammit!!

I know that this "letting go" process is just that...a process. But it's killing me! and it doesn't help that she's in love with somebody else now.

I know I will move on, but...this is painful. And hard. People, how did you all do it?

Thank you. I appreciate your honesty. I do.

PRAY ON IT. Leave it up to God, man. I'm kinda going through the same thing you are. She's not there for you to talk to. You can't ....be next to her. Pray on it and leave it up to God. It's hard to do that, but...let the Big Man upstairs work, and things will be fine. Not to mention this website is a blessing in itself.

I'll make this as quick as I can. Last year, I did the unthinkable and cheated on my ex. She found out, and, like the saint that she is...she took me back. But, because of the fact she told everybody we knew, and my desire to be single, I said we needed to take a break. Well, we still had sex, so I thought, "She ain't goin' anywhere". WRONG. One day, she decided to end our "thing". I hurt her too many times (we broke up in the summer of 2002 as well, for different reasons), so she wanted to end her pain. At the time, I thought it was bull, but, when she moved on, and when I started to miss her, it hit me. It was my turn (rightly so) to feel heartbreak.

Fast forward to this month (May). In the past few months, I've looked myself and changed a lot. Became a better man. Stopped calling my ex so much. Totally blamed myself. Got spiritual. Admited my all around immatuity. Graduated college. A 180 from where I was. And...I thought I was over my ex. WRONG again. I called her, and we talked about who we were dating currently. I told her I met a few women, nothing serious. She went ahead and had a hot, steamy one night stand this past weekend. On the phone, I wasn't bothered by her fling at all. But, when I got off the phone, I crumbled.

I thought I was over this woman. But...I'm not. I'm totally lost. And...I still love her. But, I don't even have the right to, after all the crap I put her through. So...why can't stop thinking about her?