holyohio

Ok. Check this out.

Everyone who is reading this thread in privacy...take your shirt off.

To arouse anyone, try to lightly caress their FLANKS.

Your flank is the area about six inches below your nipples to the side, almost directly under your armpits.

Try to touch this area as lightly as you can. You are doing it correctly if your nipples get real hard and you get a very ticklish, yet sensual feeling.

If you are ever making out with anyone else and they happen to be without a shirt try this tactic. Im sure it will help "lubricate" any problems you might have. Many of my girlfriends have become ridiculously wet purely because I work these areas by LIGHTLY BRUSHING them with my FINGERTIPS while I kiss or hold them. The cool part is that you can see if you are doing it correctly if their nipples become hard. You can increase the sexual tension if you LIGHTLY kiss and caress their nipples when you see you are getting a positive response.

But still, its fun because you can feel how it feels for the other person by doing it to yourself. Who wouldn't like that? I haven't met anyone who hasn't.

Verbal diarrhea of how sweet he is, how much I care about him, all our common interests, how much fun I had on vacation with him, you know, gushing.

well done !

I talk about how sweet he is and how well we get along. I'm not sure waht all I say exactly, I tend to gush

 

please, for us, define "gush"?

I tell the truth.

 

god bless you, and women like you !

If I was asked I would find the question rude and offensive no matter what the truth was.

then in your case it would be the answer, that is, that what you voluentarily give up, not the question, that offends you.

what do you volunetarily give up, you get it?

Pretty much the same for me. Even though I like to focus more on the cute things the guy does, my friends' first question is always about size.

if that is true of the gradient (which I will assume it is) ...what do you tell other girls?

1.)the truth

2.) bigger than said

3.) smaller than said?

How into me he is, the sweet things he does...

I might brag a bit about himbeing good in bed and having great arms or somthing, but 98% of bragging is about his personality, how he does all these small yet fantastic things that make my heart pop...

for the sake of science(however naivly) can you please elaborate "into me" so we can be on the same page?

some may define it as how acutely he responds to your wants/needs or how he responds to yours, but we need a concrete definition to help us.

we can do a how men evaluate women at the end of this if anyone is interested and can make a new topic, i just cant cause I have a topic on the 1st page.

Sorry.

 

Just to throw in a man's perspective...I always see and talk about a woman's sense of humor first. A good sense of humor is great, a lack of one is a buzzkill!

Agree with the sense of humor, it's essential. Neccesary to balance the confusion between the sexes...

Apologies for thinking you were a girl poster, but owl avatars are....kinda...girly?! sorry !

Hypothetical case: When you are bragging to your girlfriends about someone you have recently started dating...what qualities to do you emphasize?

The main idea that im trying to get to here is that someone who has started dating a person that they like will tend to want other women(/friends/men) to evaluate him/her highly.

Which qualities are they?

When you gossip with your best girl friend about your new boy, what conversation takes place(assuming you want her to like him)?

How about when you meet a girl who you just merely know, what brief conversation do you have that makes them positively/negatively evaluate your significant other?

edit: And if you heard these from one of your friends...what qualities seemed more important to you as far as hearing a positive/negative attribute and negatively/positively evaluating them.

i.e. "Oh he's so cute and charming...*blah blah blah* but he smokes"...

some might say smoking is a turn on, most smoking a turn off....which effets you more?

how do you evaluate things you hear positively/negatively towards a new potential suitor to your best friend?

most times women will tend to try and get their best friend to like their new boyfriend (the same goes with men, but I can't start a new topic til this is off the front page)

Just curious, no judgement will be passed through these doors let it out ! it's just girl talk !

For Curiosities Sake,

holyohio

There's no skill required to have sex with any one. If sex were such a lofty feat that required noteworthy ability would there really be so many people on this planet?

You're right. It's called rape. I was not reffering to skill required to actually HAVE sex. I mean game, it takes skill to pick up women and persuade them to have consentual sex with you.

As a male, bedding a female is more challenging than a female getting a guy in bed.

Thus, there is a certain amount of skill/game/thrill of the chase required by the male to land attractive females.

There isn't much skill required, nor praise earned when you bang the chick who has already slept with the entire football team.

Hookers are honest now?

LOL!

 

I've been bitter about love, but never to a point of admiring rent-a-gals.

I'm not bitter. I have a girlfriend of almost a year and i love her very much. I was attempting to be objective.

Sure, they do, but often as part of an arrangement involving more than anonymous sex. Sometimes even respect or care enter the picture.

Im just trying to answer the question. I've never and will never use a prostitute. Nevertheless, it is still kind of funny that the article assumes that picking up a hooker is common practice among men...wrong.

Hookers dont care whether you're a Harvard Law grad or a homeless guy living under the 405. They dont judge the value/health of their relationship based on your potential earnings. They don't compare and contrast you to their other hooker buddy's latest catch. They don't complain about never getting to go out to dinner, ask you to buy them drinks, nag about your clothes, hairstyle, fingernail length, driving skills, etc. They don't demand house payments to wear on their finger as a sign of committment.

They're honest. They know what they're getting paid for.

Thus the basis of their appeal for some of the less fortunate.

Women often wonder, "Why would a man pay for sex when it is easily obtained for free in our society?"

Because prostitutes are cheaper. Everyone pays for sex.

Bwahaha, masturbating to porn and not getting caught by my parents for 6 years from when I went through puberty to when I moved out was no problem !

Hiding it from an insecure, judgemental, and naive girl would be a piece of cake !

If you dont ever want to have sex, there is no purpose for you to get married (it would be hard to find someone who wants to have kids, but no sex), so no worries about having to get married!

Most times I am an angel.

 

rawk on. it's girls that say this intially that tend to be the most freaky & exciting. me gusta mucho !

on my girlfriend's fathers desk...

id have to say that this is the most risque locale that I've had sex...and we'd been together only about ....2 weeks?

other than this, im a pretty boring person.

Hmm interesting... when you mean slippery, what do you use?

spit. my girlfriend loves it when i spit on her va-jay-jay and lick my fingers before i touch her. i think its because spit feels warm to the touch.

seems be plenty slippery after that.

Did you think my email alluding to that made it explicitly understood?

in my opinion, reading just what you said and taking it as a direct quote, no. he probably didnt think twice about it.

So I basically decided to tell the guy I had a major crush on...that I just want to be friends with him. Because I can't trust him yet and I feel like we're moving too fast (although I didn't explicitly tell him those reasons, he likely gets them.) I just sent an email to him telling him an update on my project he helped me with....and said "I trust you won't tell anyone this as it is confidential, but since you are a friend and helped me out with it, I'm letting you know." I was also impartial in my email, somewhat distant, not flirtatious.

Ah, so you didnt say you just wanted to be friends, you merely addressed him as a friend in a sentence thanking him for looking over one of your projects?

sorry, it's early in the mornin' here, didnt read it correctly!

I think you should be ok then. I just read the title, read you sent him a lengthy email about moving too fast, called him a friend (and even in your mind told him that you see him as "just a friend") and the like...totally different situation !!

I think you are fine then, not as big of a deal as you think...if you really only said just what you said "don't tell anyone about my project, i come to you in confidence as a friend!" or whatever (paraphrased)

However, if this guy is a co-worker, subordinate, or superior of yours, I would seriously consider whether or not you two should get close. Nothing good ever comes from interoffice relationships. "Don't ...poop where you eat", right? Could end up with one/both of you getting fired, sexual harassment lawsuits, or otherwise. Not very fun stuff to deal with.

good luck !

Her insecurity and lack of ability to take control of the situation/looking to you for approval in the HEAT OF THE MOMENT was a turn-off for you (as it is to most men).

You lost your erection because you were turned-off...

Not exactly rocket science, mate You're fine.

I think it will push him directly towards the other girls he is dating. If that is not what you want then I think you had better do some fence-mending here.

damn. well said !

brevity is wit, eh !?

Ok. Let me clarify. I told him that I just want to be friends with him.......but then we heavily flirted and met the next day and flirted then (albeit a bit more lightly, but still eye contact, touching, etc.)

 

after that the only indication that i wanted to be friends was in my email which was more subtle... i.e. this was what I said: "I trust you'll keep all of the info. in the previous email private...as it is somewhat confidential. I'm just letting you know as you are a friend and helped me out with it... thanks again."

 

But my tone was obviously different, not so flirtatious.

 

kill self?

 

well rule no. 1 in dealing with any person of the opposite sex is to PAY ATTENTION to their ACTIONS, not their WORDS. Behavior is very many times more consistent than semantics simply due to the fact that behavior cannot be pondered, thought about, planned out, or forced as easy as written word or verbal language can. Ya dig? Most behavior is dealt out on a cause-and-effect basis, thereforeeee you do not have the same amount of time to attempt to deceive someone as to your real feelings as easily as you can if you are, say, sitting at home for a few hours wondering what to type on email or say on the phone.

 

if you think he is socially expert (in regards to females) enough to understand this (i know, i know, i usually dont advise women to make assumptions about a man or visa versa!), then you should be okay if you play back the flirting a little and then gradually increase and make it seem like you are warming up to him...

 

however, not all people know this. he is probably feeling somewhat confused right now, or sees you simply as a flirt or a .... tease. if you truly see yourself having this person in your life (and potentially not ONLY as a friend) you might try to sit down and explain (as non-threateningly as possible) that the email was just an attempt to slow down the interaction for a little bit until you got comfortable, and that you really are attracted to him, but want to get to know him a little better.

Do you think this retreat will just push him away altogether?

yes.

telling a man you "see him as just a friend" is one of the worst cliches of our day.

he's probably heard it before, and it usually indicates(...well...in every case, it seems, EXCEPT yours) that the female is not sexually or romantically interested in a man regardless of any flirting or whatever takes place, but still looks forward to hopefully receiving his attention in the future.

if he's suave or wise (speaking strictly in the sense of wisdom, e.g he has experience in this area) he may even see your "lets be friends" as an insult to his demenor and behavior, as typically men who receive the "lets just be friends" (i can hardly type it without gagging) do so for a good reason...they are boring robots who let women walk all over them & have little or no self-esteem. In other words, women don't find them attractive (sexually, romantically, whatever) which leads them to receiving the "lets just be friends" talk.

A better tactic would have been that you are so consumed with work that you didn't have enough time to invest in a relationship. While this is still a pitifully cliche cop-out, at least he might think that he still had a shot in the future.

The best tactic would have been (gasp)...honesty & communication. Tell him that you are interested in him, but feel that you have a lot going on in life, that you are a very busy person, and that you think that things are just moving too fast for you. I don't know one decent man who would find this strange or offensive.

What you basically did is told him that you are, and will never be, sexually or romantically attracted to him.

No worries tho, love, for experience is a harsh teacher. she gives the test first and the lesson afterwards ! you'll learn tho