Lovesick1984

That is exactly why I am here as well. I lost my virginity at 21 to a guy 10 yrs. older than I who "poofed" after capturing it. He romanced me for two months. We discussed everything...relationship (he brought it up)/sex/virginity issue. I have read countless r'ship books before him and handled it so well. I cannot describe all of the things he went out of his way to do, etc. I lost it to him after a candlit dinner he made with wine and candles. He turned cold directly after, disappeared without any explanation. Re-appeared 3 months later wanting to talk...and apologizing. I never persued him....before, during, after the r'ship. I have always had a lot of pride and dignity but this is still hard for me swallow. The sad part is that it has completely tainted my view of men. I never REALLY trusted them to begin with, and that is why I waited so long. Although, this guy completely blew me away. I thought I could easily spot the creeps, but eveidently not!! I waited two months in a adult r'ship. Please help me out...Please tell me this is NOT normal. None of my friends(my SMART mother included) have ever heard of a story like this.

Hi all... How long should you make guys wait for sex for the first time? If everything is progressing smoothly and the guy is persuing you seriously. I know you cannot put an exact time frame on it, but how long do guys like the chase theoretically speaking? Thanks