I am 25F. I recently started talking to this guy (22M) online from another city. We hit it instantly. So instantly that he started telling me he liked me from the very first couple of days, which was not something I could reciprocate because I am personally a very cautious person when it comes to relationships. We, both, however, click so much that I of course kept talking to him. He is a very closed off person, even if he has always been emotionally available to me. He takes time to himself to process info. Personally, I don't mind because I also like my personal space (been single for almost 2 years). Problem is his over enthusiastic likeness to me that he portrayed is slowly turning lighter, BUT this time I am having a problem with his reduced energy regarding this. I have a problem with attachment, and even if it isn't worse as before, I am very scared I am getting attached. I feel the difference in the ways we interact, I wait for his texts, and I am afraid it's too soon for me to act like this.
I still want to try things because I think we are very compatible in our beliefs. He is a student, so am I, and we can only see other this winter (if it goes on that long). He does keep telling me likes me, but I am starting to believe he is mistaking fascination and infatuation for liking, and being someone who falls very hard once they do, I DO NOT want to go forward if the other person is not even sure of what they feel. I don't want him to realise 5 months into the relationship that he just idealized me and did not actually liked me. Please advise on how to take this forward, and what kind of conversations I could initiate to better understand this situation.
