My gf and I had been dating for a little over a year now, like 15 months. We were both in high school and I was a junior and she was a senior. We met and became friends during cross country at our high school and we discovered we had a lot in common. I thought she was amazing; she is beautiful, really smart, and basically everything I wanted in a girl. We started dating in November of that year. She was my first gf, though she had been with a few guys before me that were only for a couple months. We were doing great and there was nothing wrong between us, but pretty soon the first challenges started happening. My parents are very religious, though I am not and neither was my gf. From the few times she came over to my house we got the sense my parents didn't really like her. This basically was the start of a gap between my gf and my parents. After a few months we took our relationship further and started doing more sexual acts in secret. We didn't feel like we were rushing things and we were both happy with our relationship. I would write about it in my journal, which my parents read and I got in trouble for. They already had screen restrictions and time limits on my phone but this got more increasing once they found out about this stuff. My gf was really upset by this. She was upset we couldn't have a "normal" relationship and also that my phone would lock every night at 9:30 so I can't talk to her. I also find out that my mom had been reading my journal for a long time, before I had started this relationship, as her way of keeping an eye on me. I was really hurt by that and like a huge invasion of my privacy. I can sort of understand reading it if you suspect I could be in danger but this was happening long before my gf. Once we stopped being intimate we started sexting more which I also got in trouble for because my mom got access to my texts. She also logged onto my snapchat account as myself to try to go through my messages but my gf texted her to stop being a creepy b*tch which only further worsened their relationship. That was a few months into our relationship, and after that she never came back to my house. We were still doing well and making the most of the situation. We did our best to see each other and go on dates. There were times when we would argue that usually stemmed from the situation with my parents. Usually it would go something like my gf wanted to see me and I didn't want to ask my parents because I knew they didn't approve and they might just say no. I usually procrastinated asking them to go on dates out of fear of them basically. It caused a lot of tension and stress for me. I felt like I was trapped in-between my mom and gf, as my mom was the main perpetrator and my dad kind of just went along with her. It doesn't help that my gf is extremely opinionated and combative, which at times seemed to make the situation worse. This is something I think a lot about now that we aren't together. She is very opinionated, and by nature I am not. I am definitely more laid back in chill. Therefore it felt like she was the one in control in this relationship. She usually came up with the date ideas because I felt the need to know it was something she wanted to do. She's the kind of person to have her entire life planned out and knows exactly what she wants. That was very attractive to me earlier but recently it seems like a source of conflict. Last fall she went off the college and I started my senior year of high school. The college she goes to is about 20 minutes away, so it worked out that we were still able to go on dates and see each other. It started well, but she seemed to change as time went on. She became unsatisfied with me and seemingly wanted someone more stable with their life together. At one point she told me she needs a 600k house to be happy and needed to be rich. Her anxiety and mental health issues also got bad and she expected me to stay up all night and text her so she could fall asleep. (I found a way past my phone restrictions my parents didn't know about). She wanted me to be more proactive with planning dates and just being a better boyfriend in general and I agree with that but I would argue I didn't have the space to do that in the situation I was in. This cumulated in finally a couple months ago she told me she had a new guy friend named henry at college. I was okay with that. I'm not some manipulative jerk that wouldn't let her have male friends, but immediately I started getting suspicious. She said he called her cute when they first started talking and that he would date her if she was single. He would stay up and text her while she was anxious and even offered to drive her around in his car so she could sleep. It seemed like he was trying to slide in between us while I wasn't there. To keep this as short as possible, basically she broke up with me after a month of that and two hours later did sexual acts with Henry immediately after we broke up. (Like 2 hours). She has since come back to me and doesn't talk to Henry anymore because she found out he's not a good guy after all and just wanted her for her body. (Surprise surprise). To make matters worse, the college she goes to is also the college I want to go to because it is a really good school and not even because of her. My parents have already said they aren't going to help me pay for my college if I choose to go there and are trying to get me to go to a trashy school 2 hours away. Right now my former gf and I still talk but we aren't dating I don't know what to do. If my parents find out I could be loosing out on the $40,000 they might spend to help me pay for college. I could go to a different school but it doesn't seem like the best option for my career.
