Bolosk

Yes we both want to get married and have kids, which is my biggest concent. Raising a kid with a liar? I deemed 'crowd sourcing' necessary as I lack boundaries. I tend to give people too much the benefit of the doubt so wanted to see what others thought.

No, he lives on his own.

Yes, what if there's more to these inconsequential lies? I suspect there might be.

He never came clean before. I always had to confront him. He said that growing up he was afraid of his mother lashing out so he avoids conflict by lying. Think he also doesn't have a healthy selt esteem so he lies to impress/make himself look better.

We don't live together, although we have plans for upcoming months. That's why it's really important for me to figure out whether to stay before further enmeshment. We've been together for 18 months and I became aware of the lies pretty immediately as some of them were, you know, easily provable otherwise! It does worry me that he is indeed a pathological liar. He doesn't have many friends so not sure how much of the version he presented to me is true.

Last weekend I met my boyfriend's mother and she casually, jokingly told me about this one time she brought my boyfriend to a therapist to 'take the liar out of him' when he was a kid. She clearly exacerbated the issue by pestering him constantly growing up, but this opened a can of worms for me. He does lie. Examples: -He lied to me about his address when we first met. He then faked a house move when he was comfortable enough to invite me around instead of coming clean. -He lied to me about his salary. Apparently to impress me early on. Think 5% difference so not a lot. -He lied to me about his appearance. Sent me an old photo initially and told me he weighed way less than he does before we met. -He was trying to sell an item. Got offered 10k less. Asked me what to do. As he needed a quick sale I told him to counter it to a price he's willing to take. Next day he said he never heard back from the buyer again. 2 days later his mother asked about it and he said he told them to get lost! (Lie by ommision?) -He kept mentioning his ex from years ago and his most recent ex's best friend on separate occasions. I recently figured they were the same person!! When I confronted him about it he got all flustered. -Kept moaning about his debt from our summer holidays so we didn't do anything since September. We spend weekends at home. Recently I found out he accrued the majority of it before we even met... He manipulates me with half truths as well. These are the lies I caught in the last 18 months. Don't think he's cheated - yet! But it really bothers me. I confronted him recently and he promised to never lie again, but his mother's story over the weekend made me think this habit goes way deeper than I can deal with. Would you stick around or leg it?