Dan213

Thank you everyone for your responses thus far, i really appreciate it. I will provide a more general response to everyone's comments. In regards to the relationship i have spoken to my partner and we have agreed to have a thorough conversion face to face in the coming days. I have found that when we talk over the phone, things don't tend to translate well, but face to face i can get a general response and gauge the atmosphere from there. I have stated in the past to her that i respectfully am not looking to be in this relationship to fill the stepdad role if we don't have a child of our own. Because of this i haven't fully pushed to continuously meet her son as i don't want him and I to get too close for things to just end. I believe that would be quite selfish and a lot to deal with on both sides. All in all i have been mentally preparing myself to end things on a mutual note if after our conversation we are not on the same page at all. This I will make sure to stick to irrespective of how hard it may be, as i don't want to be waiting around just because anymore. I will also give this a go as i bought a mind journal a while ago but never really used it. Might be time to dust it off and start using it haha.

She has one child and we actually get along great in all honesty. But yeah really and truly you are correct. At her age time is not on her side and prolonging the inevitable just doesn't help at all. Just hurts a lot when you feel like you've been doing everything right and everything you can just to throw it all away.

I hear you as it does feel like that at times. Like she does a usual check-in with me daily to see how the day went and such but when it comes to serious topics like this it is seeming like the answer is plain to see but i keep holding out for some odd reason. We have agreed to have one more talk about this but i understand where you are coming from and a re-think about this whole thing may be in order.

Hi All! Im hoping i can get some advice or constructive honest opinions on this matter. I(M28) and my Partner(36F) seem to be on different pages about our future. First off we have a great relationship overall and have been together for 2 years. We are on great terms and enjoy each others company very much when we meet up and she is an amazing partner overall. The problem I am facing is that she does't seem all to motivated to want to actually start a proper future with me even though we have discussed this multiple times. She is already a mother and i don't have any children and the main thing I have said to her at the beginning of the relationship is that I would like to have a child. Each time i have brought this up about us trying more to have a child she either says yes and doesn't follow through or she tells me how she is busy and on the weekends when we meet is the only time she can do and to her that is enough. The issue i have with this is that, when i ask to meet her in the week to go out to shops or so, she will make the time to do that, but if i suggest that we try for a child then it becomes a no go. One point she said i was inconsiderate one time for bringing it up when we were out together because 'I should wait' but i was suggesting it so we could try. We are now at a point where I'm meant to be meeting her son more and even that she doesn't even push for, as it was my idea to get it going properly in the first place. Her son likes me as we have met a few times before but it seems like if i don't suggest it then she doesn't bring it up or even plan anything. Recently i have started to lose interest in the relationship but i do love her a lot. I have invested soo much into this relationship and have learnt a lot throughout the time we have been together but honestly i am conflicted on this matter and would really love some help thanks.