Ive been married to my soulmate for 20 years and still love her to bits after all that time.
Three years ago my wife had an operation to repair a prolapse and it was a long recovery. When we had sex after recovery it was painful for her and we just really stopped doing anything at all.
We did however have sex maybe once every month but has now told me that she no longer gets turned on and doesnt want to have sex anymore. I told her i will support her and will not stray outside our marriage. Problem is that its me giving her a big cuddle and she never returns it. I really just feel that she just cant be bothered with our marriage anymore and she always says to me that i know where the door is if im not happy.
A few days ago we were chatting and i asked if we could get intimate without intercourse as i do enjoy it and i just looking at her turns me on but she has told me im selfish and just thinking about myself and that i can sort myself out.
Ive tried to be supportive and caring but it makes no difference. I honestly feel that shes no longer in love with me, although she does say she is.
Can anyone else relate to this and am i being selfish.
