Ok so…this isn’t really an ex-bf thing (I’m female) and this was a happening back in high school but it still kinda stumps me to this day and would love some answers.
So when I was in HS everyone was given a student account & a laptop at the time and while I was scrolling thru a discussion site for an assignment one day, I was curious about how many ppl were at the school (idk why) so I clicked on a group icon that let me see all the student profiles in my grade.
I was scrolling thru and I saw this super cute guy and I was curious to see more about him, and I clicked on his profile and tried to figure out his student id number… now i know this is super creepy and kinda stalker-ish but idk I was a weird awkward tween.
After several times I kept failing attempts and couldn’t figure it out so I gave up and just closed the laptop, going thru the rest of the school day.
and then…like magic, I actually stumbled across the guy before I left for school that day and saw him talking to a friend. He mentioned something about a person that tried to log into his account…He even said my name!! (“I don’t know…some girl named [my name]…”)
I freaked out. How did he even know?! I guess he had a tracker on his laptop or somethin??
So I rushed past the crowd and headed for the bus and went straight home that day. ofc, that night I screamed into my pillow so many times… ofc if this guy found out I was trying to figure out his account info, he’d be so creeped out by me!!
The next day at school, I realized this guy I checked out was actually in my math class… (ok no joke I was new to the school and it was like the 1st wk). I freaked out for a 2nd time, and tried hiding my face as much as possible with my long hair and sat at the furthest table. In class our teacher called names to return papers……. and guess wut. My name was called, and I was way too shy to raise my hand so my friend in front of me pointed at me. All eyes were on me for a second and my face turned so hot all I could do was look down awkwardly at my hands. Of course, the guy looked at me too.
…great. Now he knew who the creepy stalker was from yesterday.
As the bell rang and class was dismissed, I waited until everyone got out and was the last person to walk out of class. The guy was heading to the cafeteria and as soon as I stepped out he turned around to glance back at me and gave me this rlly sly, smug smile. I guess he figured out I was interested in him.
I couldn’t understand why he was giving me this look. Normally anyone would be creeped out if they knew someone was stalking them… whether in person or online…
I was in free time class for my last period and it was a time where students could roam around to go either to clubs, the library, or tutoring for different classes, and OMG the guy came walked into the classroom I was in… I guess he saw where I was or something?
But…he also brought another girl with him. Red flag.
I did not dare look at them and tried my best to be focused on my homework, but I couldn’t help but hear their conversation from across. After all, we were in the same room and he and the girl was sitting right beside me.
They went on about what teens usually talk about, like club or extra activities n stuff they do, then at very last minutes before the bell rang (don’t remember much of it) it went on something like this:
The girl: “So you want me to be ur girlfriend right?”
The guy: “ Hold on let’s not go too fast…”
As soon as the bell rang, I ran out of class as fast as I could (couldn’t even breathe lol) and on my way home I was incredibly confused… why did be bring another girl? What was he trying to show me? Why would they talk about dating right in front of me? I couldn’t understand a lot of what was going on at the time. I didn’t have any dating experience, nor had any flirting game. I was kind of clueless.
The next day, he started to more openly hang around that girl and rumor quickly spread about them dating. Ppl said crude jokes like “so does she call you daddy now?” The guy replied, “…Yet.”
You can probably guess the rest. He openly showed affection for her and they were always together…etc. I obviously got the clue very early on and did my best not to give him attention, sticking with a group of loyal friends. I didn’t stare at him or tried talking to him, and just went about my days being diligent with schoolwork. But seeing the two definitely bothered me and the guy also kept proximity to me and kept coming near or close to where I was (in math class AND around the school) throughout the school yr. This made me INCREDIBLY uncomfortable and as a kid that struggled with anxiety, gave me panic attacks that required me to go hide in the bathroom during lunch break to just cry or stay silent.
The following year before covid hit, I immediately switched schools and submitted my withdrawal papers. I didn’t want to be near him or his girl or any of the drama. I was completely done.
The crazy thing about this was that even in the summer I saw his family at a local park and near my home right where I lived and when fall semester began, saw him and the girl he dated right on my way of going to sports practice.
I still feel very confused about his motives and this still kind of hurts me. Don’t know if he was interested in me or not. If he was, why did he show off and associate himself with another girl? Was he trying to tell me to take the hint and know that I’m way out of his league, or was just trying to make me jealous??
This was years ago, and I rarely think about this now, but it came as a flashback today and just curious what you guys think. Sorry bout the long post.
