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Last time I checked, he said yes. I told him I’ll let him know once I figure out my schedule. Fortunately, he reacted positively when I texted him today that I am not comfortable doing it. Yes, you’re right about I should not continue to contact him anymore.

Thanks, Catfeeder! Yes, I have to learn more about reasonable boundaries so I will not allow others to impose me. I need to learn how to say “no” more to minimize people taking advantage of me.

Thanks everyone for your great help. I truly appreciate every single advice given by you. I have been a long time follower of this website, but it’s my very first time posting. Therefore, I felt a quite nervous on how people would react to my problem. Fortunately, you have been very professional and helpful. I’ve contacted him I don’t feel comfortable tutoring his kids and hope that he could find someone else, in which he responded back “ok” and said his health has been declined greatly lately. I haven’t responded back.

Thanks for sharing your story! You’re absolutely rights👍🥰🫡

Thanks again for your helpful feedback. I appreciate your time and effort in helping me solve this issue. I have responded to him that I’m not comfortable in teaching the lessons and I hope that he could find someone else. Although he lives in another country, but he comes to the US often to participate in community events. I admire him for that; therefore, I feel a little obligated to say yes when he asked. Thanks again sweetie!👍🥰

Thanks Batya33 for your kind words. I feel I could never repay my community and the USA for being such a wonderful country; therefore, what I do is just a grain of salt. Yes, I realize he’s not serious about the lessons and also doesn’t treat me adequately; therefore, I don’t feel comfortable to carry out the promise.

Thank you so much for your valuable feedback, MissCanuck! I greatly appreciate it. Yes, you’re right about he’s not that serious about the lessons although he said it 3 times throughout our conversation. I guess I’m the one that takes it seriously. Yes, although I don’t want a romantic relationship with him, I respect his work and knowledge for the community and country. I know what to do now. Thanks again!👍🥰

Hi catfeeder, I greatly appreciate your helpful, on-point feedback. 🫡❤️👍🥰No, he knows I would do it for free because he has seen me doing things for the community for free. Exactly, I feel he disrespected and used me by not even maintaining basic communication while still wanting me to teach his kids. The only reason I have a hard time canceling him because I am not used to breaking promises although I feel he imposed me to teach English to his kids. I don’t mean to blame on him because I should have rejected him instead of being obligated to say yes. Yes, overall I’m a passive person who has a hard time saying no to people and I dislike myself for being passive.

Thank you for your help. Yes, I felt a little uncomfortable when he asked me that because to me it’s a big commitment even I do it for free.

From the beginning I already felt uncomfortable about him asking me to teach English to his kids, but I find no valid reason to say no because he knows I’ve tutored kids both voluntarily and getting paid in my life with their school work. It’s not that I want a romantic relationship with him although we have many things in common when we speak. I feel it’s generally disrespectful to ignore people texts or wait to long to reply in general. It’s a dual respect matter.

No, although I respect and admire him for his knowledge and talent and we do have a lot of things in common when we talk, I do not hope to have a romantic relationship with him. No, he’s not married as far as I know.

Thank you for your advice!👍❤️

Thank you for your advice! 👍❤️

Thank you, Wiseman!👍❤️

Thank you so much for your response. He asked if I could do it and I said yes. It’s only once a week for an hour so I thought it’s no big deal. Recently I texted him about something else and he went silent on me for days. Other times, he rarely responds. Yes, I did promise out of kindness cause I used to tutor kids too, but not teaching English. Like I said, I’m a type of person who keep my promises well, but in this case, I don’t feel easy after he got back to his country and rarely respond back , but last time he responded that he’s still wanted me to teach his kids English.

Hello, I need your advice. I know this guy from another country through community events when he traveled to the US. We had great conversations and connections. When we hang out last time he asked if I could teach English to his kids online because it’s his dream to take his family to live in the US one day. At first I was hesitant because I’ve never taught English to anyone and have never met his kids. I tried to find an English teacher yo teach his kids, but it didn’t work out. When he asked again, I said I will look into my schedule and will teach them. Now, I feel uneasy about it. The main reason is our communication is not great and inconsistent since he gets back to his country. He takes days to reply my texts (I rarely text him) and when he does, it’s very short and cursory. Now, I’m not sure if it’s the right thing to reverse my promise of teaching his kids English just because our connection is not the same anymore. I’m usually a very reliable person and keep my promises well. Unfortunately, in this case, I don’t feel it’s a good idea for me to teach his kids. How do I reverse a promise civilly? Any advice is extremely appreciated! 😊