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Last time I checked, he said yes. I told him I’ll let him know once I figure out my schedule. Fortunately, he reacted positively when I texted him today that I am not comfortable doing it. Yes, you’re right about I should not continue to contact him anymore.

Thanks, Catfeeder! Yes, I have to learn more about reasonable boundaries so I will not allow others to impose me. I need to learn how to say “no” more to minimize people taking advantage of me.

Thanks everyone for your great help. I truly appreciate every single advice given by you. I have been a long time follower of this website, but it’s my very first time posting. Therefore, I felt a quite nervous on how people would react to my problem. Fortunately, you have been very professional and helpful. I’ve contacted him I don’t feel comfortable tutoring his kids and hope that he could find someone else, in which he responded back “ok” and said his health has been declined greatly lately. I haven’t responded back.

Thanks for sharing your story! You’re absolutely rights👍🥰🫡

Thanks again for your helpful feedback. I appreciate your time and effort in helping me solve this issue. I have responded to him that I’m not comfortable in teaching the lessons and I hope that he could find someone else. Although he lives in another country, but he comes to the US often to participate in community events. I admire him for that; therefore, I feel a little obligated to say yes when he asked. Thanks again sweetie!👍🥰

Thanks Batya33 for your kind words. I feel I could never repay my community and the USA for being such a wonderful country; therefore, what I do is just a grain of salt. Yes, I realize he’s not serious about the lessons and also doesn’t treat me adequately; therefore, I don’t feel comfortable to carry out the promise.

Thank you so much for your valuable feedback, MissCanuck! I greatly appreciate it. Yes, you’re right about he’s not that serious about the lessons although he said it 3 times throughout our conversation. I guess I’m the one that takes it seriously. Yes, although I don’t want a romantic relationship with him, I respect his work and knowledge for the community and country. I know what to do now. Thanks again!👍🥰

Hi catfeeder, I greatly appreciate your helpful, on-point feedback. 🫡❤️👍🥰No, he knows I would do it for free because he has seen me doing things for the community for free. Exactly, I feel he disrespected and used me by not even maintaining basic communication while still wanting me to teach his kids. The only reason I have a hard time canceling him because I am not used to breaking promises although I feel he imposed me to teach English to his kids. I don’t mean to blame on him because I should have rejected him instead of being obligated to say yes. Yes, overall I’m a passive person who has a hard time saying no to people and I dislike myself for being passive.

Thank you for your help. Yes, I felt a little uncomfortable when he asked me that because to me it’s a big commitment even I do it for free.

From the beginning I already felt uncomfortable about him asking me to teach English to his kids, but I find no valid reason to say no because he knows I’ve tutored kids both voluntarily and getting paid in my life with their school work. It’s not that I want a romantic relationship with him although we have many things in common when we speak. I feel it’s generally disrespectful to ignore people texts or wait to long to reply in general. It’s a dual respect matter.

No, although I respect and admire him for his knowledge and talent and we do have a lot of things in common when we talk, I do not hope to have a romantic relationship with him. No, he’s not married as far as I know.

Thank you for your advice!👍❤️

Thank you for your advice! 👍❤️

Thank you, Wiseman!👍❤️