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thanks everyone for the input and support. i do believe she had no intension of forming a relationship and only wanted a hookup and when she didnt get it she got mad at me for wasting her night. the whole kissing chemistry thing doesnt make sense because if she was so drunk that she lost all her boundaries how are you going to remember if chemistry is there or not. i think she has some major relationship issues and a drinking problem. hell for all i know she could be married and cheating on her husband. she works 3rd shift 3 on 3 off and when shes working her ex husband stays at the house to watch their 17 yr old son. when i went to her house her son was with her ex down in Florida. hard lesson learned for me

about the taking down the dating sites. typically what i do is only date 1 person at a time so i pause or disable my dating apps while im dating someone. i do blame myself for not seeing the red flags sooner. to my defense my profile was very detailed about my personality my like and dislikes and what i was looking for in a relationship. hers was a paragraph at most specifying meeting right away. she claimed that we were so much alike and had so many things in common. during our date we hardly got to talk about personal things. one problem and big flag was she dominated the conversation because she was so hyper physically and verbally i could barly get a word in . I do think she has a problem with drinking from some of her stories. shes 51 but seemed very immature. the thing that bothered me the most and what caused me so much confusion is she sent me a message before we met saying that the last guy she met obviously was after 1 thing and she was sick of guys doing that. thats why i was so confused when she did a 180 and jumped on me. she also said that she was hopeful that we would hit it off and we could have a dating app deleting party.

she agreed to go on a few more dates but ill be surprised if i hear from her again and honestly im not sure i even want to at this point. exactly, she led me to believe it was great then had a change of heart the next day and didnt have the decency to be honest and dodged the truth for 2 days. i think its a petty thing to end things over. especially after 1 date. there were more pluses the negatives. i think shes a game player. one thing i forgot to mention is she broke out her vibrator and had me use it on her with her cloths half off. i believe i dodged a bullet indeed.

talked to her today and asked for some clarification. she says our kissing didnt have the chemistry she wanted. although thats not what she was saying during our making out. she was saying how turned on she was and how much she liked it. one thing i didnt like is she was very aggressive and was shoving her tongue down my throat. it was very sloppy and not very sensual. i told her that it was a bit awkward and our first time and we needed to learn each others kissing style. she said its about what she likes and wants and wont settle like she has in the past. i told her you cant judge things by 1 date and we should try a few more dates before giving up on our feelings.

thanks for the advice. i tend to overthink things and not to mention i have a anxious preoccupied attachment style. i see a counselor for that.

we met for dinner and drinks. I drove she took a uber because she hadnt drank in a while. we hit it off really good. we live very close to each other so at the end of the date she asked if i wanted to take her home and watch a movie. when we got to her house she had another drink. as the movie went on she was getting very snuggly with me and at the end of the movie she got very aggressive. lots of kissing and heavy petting. before that began we agreed that sex was off the table her words which i was fine with because she was pretty tipsy and i wasnt. after things cooled down we talked about that we had great chemistry and both wanted a long term relationship. we both suspended all our dating apps as we both only like to date 1 person at a time. i left and we kissed goodbye called her when i got home. the next day she apologized for being to assertive and said she drank to much. she said she did have a great time but her actions werent really her and she feels bad. we texted through the day and made plans for another date. she just got over covid so the date took a lot of energy out of her. i may be reading to much into her texts but she seemed distant. we were supposed to chat tonight but she said she was wiped out and asked if we could talk tomorrow. all her dating apps are taken down but i cant shake the feeling something is off. thoughts?