My boyfriend and I started dating four years ago. I met him three months after my divorce. I wouldn’t say I was ready for a relationship. I gave him hell for the first year and a half because I was out with my girlfriend’s constantly and not ready to fully settle down. After a girls trip, he broke up with me and made me face the music of either being in a committed relationship and calming down with going out and posting on social media and wanted me to make changes to settle down. I I love him and want him to feel secure in our relationship so I was willing to make those changes so that we could build a foundation of trust. About six months into me making these changes we were away for a trip and a text message came up in his phone from a woman that he had in his life that he was confiding into about our relationship. I shortly after discovered, that he had many girlfriends that he had relationships with that he was sending inappropriate memes to and having inappropriate dialogue with. I never asked him to end those friendships, but I would’ve expected that when he wanted me to make the changes in my life for us that he would’ve changed the dialogue with those friendships. He Since ended those friendships. Shortly after this discovery, I also saw that he still had conversations with his ex-girlfriend. He was also taking inappropriate picture off of social media and saving them. When I asked him about it, he told me he would delete them, but he emailed them to himself to save them. I only learned this because I was on his computer with my daughter and an email came in. Emailing them to himself in those pictures were videos of him and his ex-wife having sex and many women from his past that he was trying to save instead of deleting as he promised. At this point in the relationship, my trust has been broken so I do start to look in his phone and I find that he has a major porn addiction. Every day all day he’s watching porn at work in the morning at night. He tells me that he’ll stop, but he finds other ways to do it now he’s put a blocker on the phone and he continues to look at just naked images the other day I caught him looking at a picture of his ex-wife in bed while jerking off. I came clean with him and told him that I could see his activity on his phone. My trust level and him is nonexistent at this point. I love him, but I believe firmly that one of the basic building blocks for love is trust. I was hoping to get some peace of mind that he was telling me the truth about his porn addiction and constant daily need for naked women but it was to the contrary. I don’t care about porn at home in the privacy of our bedroom but his level is morning afternoon night and anytime that he can possibly get to it. Unfortunately it created some performance problems in our intimate life and I’m at the peak of my sexuality. I want to be intimate constantly and because of his habits it’s created a big problem for us. I don’t believe that he wants to change and I am a very forward thinking person and unfortunately, this seems like a big character flaw. Is it a habit that’s just been created to constantly escape? Financially he isn’t in the place he wants to be. But escaping to a fantasy place instead of working on bettering himself isn’t going to help him or us for the future.