AdrianaKimKrintle

I'm not OK with that type of porn at all and he has been made very aware of that. He also has been made aware that if he goes back there we are through. Everyone deserves one chance and 18 years is a lot of throw away because of a couple of months of arseholery.

Thank you, this is helpful.

In fairness to him he has done a lot to show me that version of him is gone. He is very open with his devices, is unserstanding of my mental health issues as a result, is owning his mistakes, has told friends and family what he did and we have both made new promises for our relationship. The old relationship, along with the boy who did this are dead, the person he is showing me he is every day is a person who I believe I can trust again. Maybe I am focusing on the wrong thing, but maybe it's the only part of it that still brings me worry.

We have been together for 18 years and aside from this he has always been of exemplary character. He fell into depression and says that talking to a stranger online was easier than coming to me or family or friends with his problems. Since it finished he is very open with his emotions to me and family/friends. He was open about what happened to our friends and his own Mother which was hugely embarrassing for him but showed me he is willing to change. He is fully aware what a repeat of the transgression would result in and I believe him when he says he dosent want to lose me and his son. The ball is in his court so to speak, the game included. I guess although I disagree with some of your points and they seem overly harsh I have to thank you as it made me think more about my situation and come to my own conclusions.

This helped me actually because in a way he already has, he created a whole new profile so there is no chance of her contacting him. He is also very transparent with his phone and devices now so he does do everything he can to make me feel comfortable.

Thank you for your response but this isn't what I was asking. I am aware of the extent of what went on, we have moved past this part. He has not engaged anyone physically of this I am certain so I am not worried about this.

Firstly I am not looking for anyone to be telling me to kick him to the curb or anything like that, we are working on staying together in the relationship. For a bit of background my partner made an unfortunate mistake while I was pregnant and had an emotional affair with a cam girl, during this affair he invited her to play an online game that he played before this all started. When it ended after I found out he stopped playing the game for a while but has recently set up a new profile (to ease my concerns they could re-connect this way) and plays it a bit now but it still makes me uncomfortable. I don't want to be the sort of person who dictates his life and if he played this game before they met, should it be an issue that he plays it now?