pippipcherrio

when I said stay at home girlfriends were a thing, I didn't mean that I was one. im not sure why my gender needs to be relevant to be given advice on this specific thing

thank you

okay? why did you comment twice within 2 hours lmao? you're making a lot of assumptions. I never said that I was being abused and I even said in another comment that I have never considered it abuse. I don't think she necessarily "houses" me and she sure doesn't "support" me. even if so, I don't see that as completely bad. there's nothing wrong with having a different relationship role from the norm. stay at home girlfriends are a thing. I don't know where in my post I said I wanted to party...I said that she wanted me to go to a party and I didn't want to go. but that was all. other than that I said that she doesn't like for me to hang out with my friends. there's nothing wrong with wanting to hang out with your friends every once and a while. it doesn't mean that me and her don't hang out. this comment just comes off as you being an unhelpful a hole.

hmm, well thanks for your input

ive never thought of it as abusive. I tolerate it mostly because I love her and I want us to be able to find a way to work it out. im sure I could find a roommate, but I don't think I can afford to move out anytime soon.

I think it overall just boils down to her having a better job. but yeah, I am in school part time

my girlfriend holds the fact that she has more money over my head every time I want to do something she doesn't want me to. anytime I want to hang out with my friends, instead of with her, she says that she won't pay the water bill because if "im going to be selfish, then so is she" a few days ago, I didn't want to go to a party with her and she told me that if I didn't go, she wouldn't buy groceries. so I had to go because I didn't get paid until days later and we wouldn't have groceries otherwise. anytime I don't want to have sex with her, she makes me sleep in my car. and if I just say im fine with sleeping in my car because I really don't want to have sex, she'll find another way to get me to do it, like telling me that if I don't, ill be sleeping in my car for multiple days. I basically have to everything she wants, or there will be some type of consequence. ive told her before that I think her doing this is kind of unreasonable and she just tells me that im being selfish and that she does so much for me, so the least I can do is, hang out with her, do her favors, have sex with her when she wants, etc. I appreciate everything she has done/does for me and the last thing I would want to be is selfish, but I feel like how often she does it is unfair. I feel like im not even in control of my own life sometimes. for more context, she pays for all the groceries, most of the rent, wifi, and half of the utilities. am I really just being selfish and is it really a fair trade for me to just do what she wants?