I am 27M and my wife is 26F. HELP NEEDED regarding my wife and her best friend (M28) who is now showing signs of love, clinginess and possessiveness towards my wife.
I am 27M and my wife is 26F.
We got married recently. My wife has a best friend (M28).
Before our marriage she told me that her best friend has expressed his love and proposed to her multiple times. But every time she rejected the proposal and asked him only to be her best friend for life.
BACK STORY: It seems that every now and then he continued expressing his desire to marry her by using statements like "I miss you", "I love you", "Marry me please". But each of those time she rejected his proposal asking him only to be a best friend. He continued to do this until he got married to another girl. After which he stopped expressing his love directly to my wife who was single at that time. After his marriage, he continued speaking with my wife in secret against his wife's clear expression of intent for him not to do so. My wife who was single at that time continued encouraging his behavior against his wife's intentions.
Then I met my wife and we got married. During marriage I just knew that my wife has a friend who had proposed to her in the past, but now they are just friends, which wasn't a big reg flag for me. Then I knew their back story months after our marriage. It felt as if he was still in love with my wife but just that he didn't use words like "I miss you" or "I love you". Their relationship didn't sit well with me and so I expressed my boundaries and reservations to my wife. She understood for a brief moment and reduced speaking with him. Soon after she did that, he started showing signs of clinginess and possessiveness, and is now asking my wife continuously to speak with him. My wife also now shows intent to continue speaking with him.
what is going on between them and am I wrong in expressing my boundaries and reservations to my wife. ?
