Thank you everyone for the great responses. I'm glad I found this site. It seems very helpful. Now I have come follow-up comments and questions:
1. Fixing her. It seems like most here think I shouldn't suggest she sees a doctor. Fair enough. But the first time I couldn't perform, she was trying to basically convey that it's ok. And she said, "don't worry about it. If it's an issue, we will do something about it, like a lot of other people." So, in other word, I could see a doctor. So from that standpoints, I could suggest she see a doctor too. Right
2. E.D. I did get treatment for it. But I don't think that's the issue and neither did my doctor. As I seem to work well with her predecessor and others. I don't think E.D. is selective - meaning you struggle to have sex and sometimes you don't. If you struggle with one woman and not another, I don't that's E.D. Although, I will admit, treatment is awesome. Because even if it's "working" to begin with, treatment makes it work even better.
3. Somebody asked her age. 57. But I don't think age is relevant, because she claims she has "never" liked sex, so it's not a recent thing.
4. Somebody pointed out that I knew something was off even before she told me she didn't like sex. So subliminally, I could tell she was interested in sex and therefore I myself wasn't into it, subconsciously?
5. Capacity for love. Somebody brought that up and I think it's right on. Is that what she means by replying to "I love you" by saying "I'm a *** show."?
6. But she does seem to like my touch. She likes to kiss, cuddle, etc. WIthout getting overly graphic, she does enjoy when I do other things to her. And I know that because of her physical reaction/bodily reaction. Is that odd? She likes some things, but not actual sex?
7. I let it go when she did not respond to "I love you", because it was early on and alcholol was involved. To be honest, I don't know if I felt that way at that point. Drunk talk? Sex talk? Not sure. But I know I haven't repeated it.